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Date Posted: 02:01:09 07/05/06 Wed
Author: Rhonda K
Author Host/IP: d207-216-214-186.bchsia.telus.net / 207.216.214.186
Subject: (((((Dave))))) No Sugar Coating here!
In reply to: Dave 's message, "Need To Talk ( A Little Graphic )" on 22:29:28 07/04/06 Tue

With Lornes condition, we face this issue in the near future, some times, we do have problems with sex...but we knew, when we got into this relationship that this was going to happen. He is a good and gentle man, and he provides a safe home...I do know that in a new relationship, this could prove to be an issue...but for me, we enjoy our time together.

For you, your partner knew of your medical history and loves you for you...I can understand that. I also know that with every women, satisfaction is acheived with closeness and tenderness....and the "top" is not always necessary....It is great...but not always needed.

My mom, is 65 years old...she still misses my dad, he died a few years ago...but while they were still trying to reconcile their floundering relationship, he found out about his prostate cancer...like you, he thought he was less of a man and should not be selfish enough to expect my mom to stay with him...he gave up a life that would have afforded him the company of a woman that truly loved him, he lived the rest of his life...almost 14 more years...alone. The thing about my dad, he survived his cancer...but with the side effects of the treatment. He had his kids visit...but he gave up on a relationship that still was very viable. I know that he regretted it in the end...

Though the physical part of the relationship is amazing...especially when the two people are in a very trusting and open minded relationship...it is just a small part of the whole picture. And you said it yourself, there are so MANY ways for two people to make love...damn, give me a good massage and I will do anything for you! LOL.

For me, I know that I would not want Lorne out of my life..just to satisfy that part of me. He lives with alot of physical restraints...no long walks, no hiking, no standing for long periods...as his legs will start to ache. I know that his post polio he will get weaker as he gets older, and he has so many other qualities, that I admire, that I love...he is a part of my life, he is my friend...

I know the issues you are having with your partner, the trust is a definite issue...and you need to be very open and honest with her regarding your concerns...If she is going to look elsewhere...for satisfaction...and says it is because of your illness...believe me...it is her...not you, that has problems. A women, who knows how to love, a person, who knows how to love...loves in spite of everything else...
Hugs
Rhonda

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  • Re: Need To Talk ( A Little Graphic ) -- Mikki, 09:20:07 07/05/06 Wed
  • Re: Need To Talk ( A Little Graphic ) -- Mikki, 05:25:55 07/06/06 Thu
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