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Subject: Roommate Drama Progression/Deb

Author:
Shani

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Date Posted: 12:50:16 10/09/04 Sat

Deb,
I thought I would let you know what the latest was with the roommate issue that I was having a little while ago when we were on the other forum. I don't know if you care or remember or care to remember that she had commentend to me that she "noticed when I didn't eat", would give me the big "half" of food, and made sure that we always ate together. Well, we work together as well as live together and it can be a little rough sometimes. Just because we spend so much time together.

Yesterday when she got home from work, she asked me if she could talk to me and she said she felt like she was getting the cold shoulder from me and everything. She said that it didn't bother her when we didn't eat together, but she feels that I am not the same to her at work or around people like I am at home, which is true to an extent...I tend to use people as a buffer between us.

So I actually stood up and told her that I didn't like all of the comments that she made about my food and everything. It was soooo liberating. One less thing that she can control me with. There were definitely things that I need to improve on as well (I recognize that) but it was good to have my issues (AKA requests) out in the open and tell her to stop harping on them.

She also said something that really annoyed me too while we were talking...She made the comment that she did not think that her standards were ridiculously high and that she was felt they were attainable. I told her that putting standards on ME for MY personal life (besides regular house stuff) was not her responsibility. I told her that I feel that her standards are just that...HER standards and I don't want to live a life that she has set up for me. I didn't move in with her to have another mom. So her standards may NOT be ridiculously high, but that doesn't mean that I WANT to live up to them.

It all sounds so catty written out, but I didn't get an attitude or anything. I tried to speak calmly and approach it with the greatest of ease so as not to hurt her feelings or whatever. I THINK that I did the right thing, but what do you think? She came home and confronted me first, then I wrote out her arguments and my rebuttals and then presented that to her with solutions for my behaviors that I felt were indeed out of line.

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Subject	Author	Date
Re: Roommate Drama Progression/Deb	Basil	13:00:37 10/09/04 Sat
Re: Roommate Drama Progression/Basil -- Shani, 15:50:40 10/09/04 Sat Re: Roommate Drama Progression/Shani -- Deb, 21:44:15 10/09/04 Sat