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Subject: Re: Just checking in...


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Date Posted: 23:00:50 07/12/05 Tue
In reply to: mrsk 's message, "Re: Just checking in..." on 19:10:51 07/12/05 Tue

>>I have been having a hard time lately staying ok.
>>Work is sometimes stressful and I can handle that, but
>>it's when everything else gets bad that it sucks for
>>me. I have been fighting not to purge here lately. I
>>was down 15 pounds and then it all came rushing back
>>as soon as I got back from my vacation. I don't know
>>if this is making sense and I'm at work so this has to
>>be quick. I just feel like I'm being ridiculous. No
>>one would be able to tell that I struggle so much with
>>food. I'm not thin and it just sucks that even if I
>>say something about it to someone, they might not take
>>me seriously... And those are my frustrations for
>>today.
>
>
>Thats understandable. No one worried about me when I
>was smaller. Somehow that was fine. When I gained
>weight then everyone thought that I had some issue.
>Which I guess I always have. I just cant seem to lose
>the weight and get back to where I feel is a healthy
>normal. I tend to get the munchies at work. And
>lately my food choices seem to be worse and worse. I
>hope that you are feeling better after just discussing
>it with us.
>mrsk

hi shani,
i'm sorry you've been having such a hard time and can also relate to "not feeling ok.
stress is one of the worst things to come your way when there's also an ED to deal with. you said you've been fighting not to purge which is a really good thing, as you know that just adds to the overall stress level. i was in an outpatient program a while back, and they had a lot of great relaxation, or "grounding" techniques. taking a long bubble bath, chilling out to your fav music, lighting candles, writing down your feelings (before they come out in ED behavior) ripping up the paper then throwing it away. even the more violent method of punching the hell out of a punching bag--i think we ALL need to do that sometimes!-- i know it sounds a little stupid, but it has helped for me when i've been overwhelmed and felt like running haywire. i've never tried meditation, but have heard good things.

i personally believe EDs have little to do with weight, and more to do with well, life in general. there are some people who disagree of course, but that's okay. it's just a common myth, that people have EDs because they seek thinnes, but mostly it's made up of many other components--which is why they tend to flare up in stressful situations...

in any case, i hope you do feel a little more relaxed- hope you keep in touch & feel better {{{HUGS}}}

love,
jane

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