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Date Posted: 20:25:25 03/02/06 Thu
Author: Robert
Subject: Re: love gone wrong
In reply to: chrys 's message, "love gone wrong" on 20:33:01 02/28/06 Tue

When he started telling you deeply personal things about himself, it probably got very weird for him. Guys don't do that unless they love you.

I think you still have a shot if you want it...but you're trying too hard Chrys. Ease back a bit and put the ball in his court. He'll come around.

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[> Re: love gone wrong -- lakemnitz, 06:55:10 03/03/06 Fri [1]

Can't wait to hear what happens Chrys! I know it will work out for you and lump was right you have a lot to offer, and you are worth taking this risk for yourself.

Now me on the other hand....TG might be right because I have no idea what is keeping him there, they have had some pretty fucked up things happen in their relationship and I have wondered over the years why he stays.....personally I think that he has a serious self esteem issue but the reason I think that is he said to me one night on the phone something about why would I want to be with someone who is balding.....I was like ummmm first of all I really didn't notice that much and second that really doesn't matter that much to me.

For whatever reason she has him hooked in this sickness...and I am not sure what it is but I know I stayed in my marriage for a while and wondering what I was going to do for some time and put myself and my sobriety at some pretty serious risk. I am a little concerned about that for him too. She used to be sober but all of the sudden in the past year has started drinking again and a lot; to the point where she doesn't come home, doesn't call and makes up a lot of excuses. Last summer she spend $15K on god knows what (she gambles too).....he has been sober for a while now but I also know how that goes I have been in the mode of "well if you can't beat'em join 'em." That is how the cocaine abuse started with me....

Speaking of gambling my ex or soon to be called me last night and fessed up to why he has not been paying me.....he lost a shit load of money gambling! He started crying and telling me he didn't know what to do about it and he thinks he has a problem, begged me not to turn my back on him. I was like go to GA, acknowledge your problem, get past the shame because I cannot help you. Man I am so glad that this is not part of my daily life anymore.....he fucking owes everyone money, and I asked him is this the life you want for yourself? He asked me if I regretted leaving and I really didn't think it was totally appropriate for me to drive the nail in deeper and just said I don't think that is a fair question for me to answer...duh! No of course I don't regret it! That coupled with all of the verbal abuse I am relieved to get out....I have gotten my life back on track and have things to look forward to.

Man relationships are hard.....why do we make them so?

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