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Date Posted: 11:13:11 11/08/06 Wed
Author: jessie schippert
Subject: Re: How to avoid Heartaches
In reply to: Lincoln Rondas 's message, "How to avoid Heartaches" on 13:44:38 11/07/06 Tue

Breakups are indeed very difficult to deal with. It's inevitable, most people, at least once in their life, have to get over the heartache. However, I don't think it's something that can just be avoided. When you meet someone, it's like your heart takes over, your brain isn't involved in the matter. You don't hear the alarms going off in your head or see any signs by watching a person's body language and mannerisms. While this is true for some people, not everyone is the same. From previous experiences and from hearing about other relationships, it seems like you really don't realize what a person is really like until you get to know them. They could be the most amazing person in the world when you first meet them, then a year later when you've completely reached your comfort zone with the person or the chemistry begins to disappear, that's when you realize what the person is really like, you see their true form for the first time. Honestly I think that what causes the heart to hurt so much after a breakup is not only the fact that you may have been in love with them, but you grew so close to them and used to them. That's the person that you spent a good chunck of time with, you formed your schedule around them, and all of a sudden it's going to change. There's an abrupt stop in seeing the person who you could talk to and share anything with. And then realizing that you have to start all over again and find someone new, someone else to love. I don't think that heartaches can be avoided as easily as you say. I do agree though that a person should not put all of their eggs in one basket. Before becoming involved with another person, they should try to get to know them and understand their true self. And I also agree that people, even when in a relationship, should keep their same friends, have their own thoughts and ideas...they should remain slightly independent.

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