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Date Posted: 14:54:35 11/08/06 Wed
Author: Raquel Cruz
Subject: Re: Friend Moving Away and Making New Friends
In reply to: Carolin Pezeshki 's message, "Friend Moving Away and Making New Friends" on 14:47:30 11/03/06 Fri

Carolin,

I am in the opposite position, in the place of your friend that is moving away. I live in Brazil and I am moving to the US the next five months, so I am leaving my family (including my husband and my one-year-old daughter). I am doing an exhchange because here in Brazil I am about to graduate in Languages and Literature, and I need some experience in a country that speaks English.
It is certainly going to be a hard experience if I think about what I am leaving behind, but I prefer to think about the new experiences I am going to live there. I am sure I am going to meet many kinds of people, and I am also certain that some of them are going to become good friends.
I think it is always possible to make new friends, even in a different country. What you have to do is open yourself to meet new people, but going a bit slowly in this process, to try to avoid being hurt.
Another thing you have to think about is that your friend must have a strong reason to move away, so you should try to be happy for her, and also try to keep in touch with her as the first person suggested, send e-mails, talk on the phone and try to travel to Arizona to see her.

Best wishes!

Raquel Cruz
>Question:
>
>Today my best friend left to go back to AZ and I won't
>see her for at least 6 more months. I feel so alone
>and don't know how to get this awful solitude away.
>She has always been there and I don't know who to
>trust anymore because everytime I believe in a
>friendship it disappears. What do I do about this?
>
>Female 15 yr old
>
>
>
>Answer:
>
>It's sad when a close friend moves away. My best
>friend and I just started college, but we are going to
>different schools. I was worried about our
>relationship staying strong, but I realized that it is
>really easy to stay in touch. I frequently use my
>cell phone and email. I also use the website
>www.facebook.com where you can add people as friends
>to share pictures, talk, and joke around. My best
>friend and I don't get to actually hang out often, but
>the important part of the friendship, talking about
>life and the things that bother us, is still able to
>continue. We both make the effort to visit each
>other once in a while. I would recommend asking your
>parents if you can visit your friend in Arizona and
>maybe she could do the same. That way you will not
>have to wait six months to see her next.
>
>It is hard to find new friends, but it will happen.
>As you go through elementary school, middle school,
>high school, and eventually college, you get a new set
>of friends because your environment changes. That is
>perfectly normal. You're just starting high school so
>you are just beginning to find your friends. Give
>yourself a little time before you begin to feel
>hopeless. Join an organization that seems
>interesting to you and really getting involved with
>it. You will get to know people that have similar
>interests and make many more friends.
>
>
> Good Luck!

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  • Re: Friend Moving Away and Making New Friends -- Eliane Caldeira, 18:41:25 11/08/06 Wed
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