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Date Posted: 19:29:06 11/06/06 Mon
Author: Joshua Testasecca (WSU)
Subject: Re: Support young friends desire to have a baby?
In reply to: Teresa Yousif 's message, "Support young friends desire to have a baby?" on 22:36:54 11/05/06 Sun

Now, I do not disagree with you at all, but allow me to share a story with you.

I have a friend, who turned 16 in July. She has been seeing her boyfriend for over a year behind her mother's back because her mother had automatically judged him as a bad seed, and forbid her from seeing him. This slightly unfair judgment sent my friend into rebel and retaliation. Just over two months ago, after having unprotected sex for the majority of a year, had an 'accident'. She is now over two months pregnant, unintentionally.

This event not only had my friend have to fess up with seeing this boy for the last 1+ years to her mother, but also fess up to intercourse and the pregnancy.

This gave the mother a reason to re-judge the boy, and now accepts her as her boyfriend. Though she doesn’t completely agree with the pregnancy, she is allowed to keep it, and I have no doubt in my mind that she will make an excellent mother. She's only 16, but she's awfully realistic and mature.

Just to throw a thought in the air - If her mom would have originally allowed her to date him, maybe given him a chance or two to show who he really is, would that have pushed her into the rebellion, the sneaking around, and now the baby?

Like I said, I don't disagree with you, and I think every case is different, but couldn't it very - very much be the mother's fault?

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  • Re: Support young friends desire to have a baby? -- Julia Onodera, 10:04:58 11/08/06 Wed
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