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Date Posted: 04:57:05 11/08/06 Wed
Author: Angela Oakford
Subject: Re: "Must Dump Friends to Quit Smoking, Drinking, Drugs?"
In reply to: Bernardo Chacur 's message, ""Must Dump Friends to Quit Smoking, Drinking, Drugs?"" on 17:55:36 11/05/06 Sun

I'm really glad you decided to post an answer to this article. I have also had friends who were trying to quit drinking and doing drugs. It is important that people know about this, because it is always very difficult to get out of that situation. Most of the time, it is better to just get away from that group of people who, as you said, probably aren't really their friends: they just want to get high all the time. It is important also that if you are close to the person trying to quit, that you encourage them a lot, reinforcing the fact that it was great that they quit. Again, thank you for posting this article, I think that it is something that most teens have to face!

~Angela Oakford~

>"Must Dump Friends to Quit Smoking, Drinking, Drugs?"
>
>My boyfriend recently decided to quit smoking
>cigarettes, pot and drinking. He says that this means
>he has to dump all of his friends because they would
>never understand his decision, and that all they do
>when they're together is drink or smoke. I suggested
>that they could still talk and hang out without doing
>those things, but he doesn't think that would work. He
>doesn't think that I understand because my
>relationships with my friends are completely
>different. The friendships I have are closer and not
>based on getting trashed, but maybe that's the
>difference between guys and girls.
>I want to help him but I don't know what to do or what
>advice to give him. He really wants to give up
>drinking and smoking but is very torn up about losing
>his friends. Please help me help him.
>
>age - 17 yrs
>USA
>
>ANSWER: I feel you should actually help him to stay
>away from these so-called friends. #1 is that the
>substance abuse was really bothering him, and in an
>environment where this sort of attitude is
>common-place he won\'t be able to quit. And by the
>way, if this friendship circle is solely based on
>getting thrashed as you just said, there is hardly any
>real friendship involved. Be strong and help him out
>of this rut, but at the same time remember he is not
>solely your responsibility: encourage him to seek
>advice and professional help. This burden can be too
>heavy for someone so young as you are.

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