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Date Posted: 13:47:07 07/18/08 Fri
Author: Michael
Subject: Re: My Job
In reply to: iteo 's message, "Re: My Job" on 11:06:40 07/18/08 Fri

Hi Rana

I think your question contains your answer....I think you need to accept the job even on unfavourable terms. At least the pay is good. Lets face it, the more they pay people the more they will expect in return.

In the end, a job is a job, done to provide money for needs. If it does that, and doesnt involve immoral work then that is good.

i guess the alternative would be a permanent contract with another firm...but presumably on much lower pay, and they can still get rid of people when they think it is necessary, so the security would be limited anyway.

At work there is always something to cause a bit of grief. I haev never worked anywhere which didnt have some bad aspects to it, the hours, the pay, the bosses, the building. Overall you are better off, and thats the main thing.

In any case, they would only cause themselves problems if they got rid of good workers and then had to put in all the effort and expense of recruiting replacements. It is in both parties interests that you stay on, they just keep an option open each year to not renew a contract, but then again you can give notice when you want as well.

>Hi Rana,
>
>Here are my thoughts. It sounds to me that you already
>know what you need to do - which is accept the job.
>
>So once you can live with that decision, then the next
>step is to decide (and it is a decision that is up to
>you and you alone) how you will deal with it.
>
>You can decide to be bitter about it and be miserable
>for the entire time you work for the company. That
>decision obviously only hurts one person - and that is
>you.
>
>Or you can accept that this is the way it is and to
>put it in the past and forget it. And any time you
>start to dwell on it - push it out of your mind,
>reminding yourself that these bitter, negative
>thoughts are really nothing more than self-injury.
>
>Many of us have been through what you're going through
>(myself included). It's not easy and there may always
>be a little resentment -but if you purposely decide to
>dwell on the unfairness and focus on being bitter, the
>company won't be bothered one bit - only you will be
>hurt.
>
>:::::::::
>
>That's my advice.
>
>Now I want to share now a personal anecdote. I worked
>for a company for 7 years. I was poorly treated for
>most of my 7 years there. The owner was a even mixture
>of good and evil -- and it drove me crazy. One day he
>could be very nice, the next pure evil (well, maybe
>not evil, but really cruel and mean hearted - not just
>to me, but anyone at any time).
>
>if he was always mean, that would have been easier for
>me to take and deal with - but it was the flip
>flopping that made me feel completely at a loss with
>how to deal with him.
>
>On top of that, I was critical for the company (I was
>doing 3 jobs, webmaster, systems manager and designer)
>and worked many long hours, and was shown no
>appreciation at all, I was even disrespected many
>times.
>
>On top of that, my immediate manager was bi-polar! She
>too was constantly moving between caring emotions and
>downright mean spirited emotions (I am not making this
>up). One day she'd be in tears saying how much she
>cared about a co-worker and the next telling the
>manager another employee should be fired for making
>the tinest of mistakes.
>
>The thing is, I tried my best for 7 years to learn to
>deal with these personality types and to not hold
>bitter feelings for them. I struggled every day to not
>take their behavior personally - AND I need the job
>since I live in a rural area - there's slim pickin's.
>
>Anyway, after 7 years I truly could not take it
>anymore and I just gave my notice with no job in the
>wings. I had to trust that God would help - and just
>two days later I had another job, much better than the
>other from a company I had contacted nearly a month
>before but never heard back from. I quit on a Friday
>and the new company called on Monday.
>
>So what I am trying to say with this long story is, if
>you really can't take it, God will help. BUT, if it's
>merely your pride that is making things difficult, God
>may insist that you try to work it out first.

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Replies:

Re: My Job -- Orgqan Morgan, 18:02:42 07/18/08 Fri
- Re: My Job -- Rana, 13:34:51 07/21/08 Mon
  - Re: My Job -- Organ Morgan, 19:06:29 07/26/08 Sat
    - Re: My Job -- Rana, 09:00:08 08/14/08 Thu