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Date Posted: 11:06:40 07/18/08 Fri
Author: iteo
Subject: Re: My Job
In reply to: rana 's message, "My Job" on 05:46:45 07/18/08 Fri

Hi Rana,

Here are my thoughts. It sounds to me that you already know what you need to do - which is accept the job.

So once you can live with that decision, then the next step is to decide (and it is a decision that is up to you and you alone) how you will deal with it.

You can decide to be bitter about it and be miserable for the entire time you work for the company. That decision obviously only hurts one person - and that is you.

Or you can accept that this is the way it is and to put it in the past and forget it. And any time you start to dwell on it - push it out of your mind, reminding yourself that these bitter, negative thoughts are really nothing more than self-injury.

Many of us have been through what you're going through (myself included). It's not easy and there may always be a little resentment -but if you purposely decide to dwell on the unfairness and focus on being bitter, the company won't be bothered one bit - only you will be hurt.

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That's my advice.

Now I want to share now a personal anecdote. I worked for a company for 7 years. I was poorly treated for most of my 7 years there. The owner was a even mixture of good and evil -- and it drove me crazy. One day he could be very nice, the next pure evil (well, maybe not evil, but really cruel and mean hearted - not just to me, but anyone at any time).

if he was always mean, that would have been easier for me to take and deal with - but it was the flip flopping that made me feel completely at a loss with how to deal with him.

On top of that, I was critical for the company (I was doing 3 jobs, webmaster, systems manager and designer) and worked many long hours, and was shown no appreciation at all, I was even disrespected many times.

On top of that, my immediate manager was bi-polar! She too was constantly moving between caring emotions and downright mean spirited emotions (I am not making this up). One day she'd be in tears saying how much she cared about a co-worker and the next telling the manager another employee should be fired for making the tinest of mistakes.

The thing is, I tried my best for 7 years to learn to deal with these personality types and to not hold bitter feelings for them. I struggled every day to not take their behavior personally - AND I need the job since I live in a rural area - there's slim pickin's.

Anyway, after 7 years I truly could not take it anymore and I just gave my notice with no job in the wings. I had to trust that God would help - and just two days later I had another job, much better than the other from a company I had contacted nearly a month before but never heard back from. I quit on a Friday and the new company called on Monday.

So what I am trying to say with this long story is, if you really can't take it, God will help. BUT, if it's merely your pride that is making things difficult, God may insist that you try to work it out first.

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