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Date Posted: 09:42:28 03/15/09 Sun
Author: Verity
Subject: spank versus no spank

Just wondered if any of you experienced both both 'spanking' and 'no spank' approaches to discipline when you were a child. I am now 'pro-spank' but made that determination not just by faith or choice but by having experienced both regimes when a child. For what its worth these are my views:-

I experienced both regimes when I was a early 'teenager'. I had been born in a Christian but 'no spank' family ( for those theologians amongst you let's not get into that). My Father died when I was 12. About two years later one of my Mom's sisters had a serious accident and had no one to look after her. My Mom felt she ought to help, but didn't want me to miss school.One of our neighbours was also a widow, a High School Principal, and a lay Baptist Preacher. She had her own daughter who was about my age. She kindly offered to 'look after me' whilst my mother went to her sister. In all over the next year I probably lived with her for a good few months normally in spells of two or three weeks ( Mt mother's sister lived several hindred miles away). Later this arrangement continued with occasional stays at Sheila's , and her daughter would occasionally stay with us, say when mom was attending a conference. Of course then , if we played up it was groundings and no T.V.

At my home life was pretty liberal : no chores , discipline was traditional non spank. I would get grounded,or lose t.v. time, phone rights etc. etc. All of these were 'lengthy' punishments aimed at causing what I shall call mental pain. When I was punished the arguments went on for days. If I though the matter unfair we would have row after row, which only led to my grounding or whatever being increased....which led to more arguments..and so on.

When I was first looked after by Sheila she was straight with me. Her house; her rules. If I broke them punishment would be swift and painful! I was also expected to do chores which was a real shock.

I got my first punishment within a week. I grumbled at my chores ( to clean up after breakfast before going to school), and as a result didn't do it. When I got home at night I was told to go straight to my room. Shelia came in a few minutes later with a leather strap, and very politely asked me to take off my jeans and lay over a couple of pillows on the bed. She then pulled down my panties and gave me a good leathering. I remember I cried, guess a combination of humiliation and pain. When she had finished and I had composed myself, she told me very gently she hoped I had learned a lesson, and gave me a hug to show her continuing love.

For most offenses she used either the strap, or a school paddle. For the latter you stayed clothed,( although if , of course, you wore a skirt it would be straight on your panties), but as in school you either grabbed your ankles or braced yourself against the wall, depending on the number of strokes. Normally her punishments ended in tears, and always with a really sore behind.However they were quick , specific and a deterrent which really made you think twice before re-offending.

Sheila had definite ideas about the ritual of punishment. You would be summoned by her for a telling off, and then sent to your room 'to wait'. She didn't keep you long, just long enough to reflect on your misdemour and to think of what was to come. When she came into the room, there was no discussion it was just a business like process. she never told you how many strokes, that was for her to know , you to find out! You had to count, and if you messed up ....she started 'from the top' sgain. Swear and it was an extra two, refuse to bend or otherwise comply with her ( very polite) requests , an extra four.Should you be silly enough to repeat an offense....double!

I found this much more effective for me as a punishment. It was quick, you knew what would happen if you 're-offended'. Once the punsihment was over there was no 'atmosphere' in the house afterwards. The penalty had been paid, and life returned to normal.

One reservation is with very young children . I was old enogh to fully understand I was doing wrong. In Sheila's view , a slap was enough for a youngster, as an immediate signal of danger. She didn't believe in the strap or the paddle until about 10 when the child knows right from wrong. but then the spankings really have to hurt!

She also believed that spankings worked right through the teenage years. At about 15 she normally transferred and used a flexible rattan cane ( a proper 'rod') instead of the strap and paddle. This stung more and was given on the bare, touching toes.A normal dose was six or twelve. I only got twelve once, for buying her daughter cigarettes ! We were both punished together ; first one got six stokes then the other.....then back to the first. We yelled at nearly every stoke. It was a remarkably effective punishment. The marks lasted over a fortnight.I never touched tobacco again.

As to my family :we agreed that from the teenage years we would use the cane as the most effective punishment.I did the spanking as our children are girls, I gave an appropriate dose ( normally no more than six). We now have lovely grown up well behaved daughters, who never needed a lot of discipline, but who knew that because we loved them , if they crossed the line a caning was waiting for them - without exception.

My eldest daughter told us only the other week that she was happy to have been raised in a secure well disciplined home.She said she never feared me caning her, for punishment is neccessary deserved correction.The pain is suffering you have earned!

That reminded us of an incident when she was eighteen. One night she drove a friends car home when she had been drinking. the day afterwards, felling guilty, she told me. I tried to stop her , saying that if she carried on I would have to punish her. Our daughter replied that that was fine, perhaps I should get it over with ....but just one thing she had to say, she felt she should get , for the first time in her life, more than six. We all agreed , and I gave her ten of the very best!. After the tears she thanked me ,and said she knew she deserved, and had learned from, every single stroke. that was her last caning.

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