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Date Posted: 15:48:55 12/30/16 Fri
Author: Corey
Subject: Re: Advice on dealing with uncooperative husband
In reply to: Poppy B. 's message, "Advice on dealing with uncooperative husband" on 20:37:48 11/15/16 Tue

Hi Poppy.

Your son loves beautiful and feminine things, and behaviors. That is who he is. You helped him discover that, but he would have found all this anyway. So you are hardly selfish. You are doing the right thing so please keep up the good work.

Unfortunately there are no easy answers or simple words that I can provide you with that will guide you through this process. But perhaps you should reread what you wrote and ask yourself what the best course of action should be. Everything you experience with your son and your close friends seems biased towards beauty, closeness, sensations, and togetherness. But your husband seems biased toward resentment, separation, ultimatum, and anger. You use words like happy, joy, bonding, willing, active, and love with regards to your son. But you use words like complaint, controversy, blow up, tolerate, eye roll, and conflict when referring to your husband.

You can't choose between one or the other, nor can you compromise between the two. You can only work toward making your husband understand your son, and whether or not he chooses to accept this is entirely up to him.

My personal thought? Under no circumstances cut his hair. That would be a traumatic event that he would remember for the rest of his life. Take him to American Girl, get him a canopy bed, buy lots of dolls and stuffed animals, get ready for ballet lessons, and see where all this leads. You may someday be pleasantly surprised. With risk comes reward.

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