Re: How would you respond? -- Mothers Raising Boys as Girls

[ Show ]

Support VoyForums

[ Shrink ]

VoyForums Announcement: Programming and providing support for this service has been a labor of love since 1997. We are one of the few services online who values our users' privacy, and have never sold your information. We have even fought hard to defend your privacy in legal cases; however, we've done it with almost no financial support -- paying out of pocket to continue providing the service. Due to the issues imposed on us by advertisers, we also stopped hosting most ads on the forums many years ago. We hope you appreciate our efforts.

Show your support by donating any amount. (Note: We are still technically a for-profit company, so your contribution is not tax-deductible.) PayPal Acct: Feedback:

Donate to VoyForums (PayPal):

[ Login ] [ Contact Forum Admin ] [ Main index ] [ Post a new message ] [ Search | Check update time | Archives: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7 ]

[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

Date Posted: 03:37:41 06/20/15 Sat
Author: Joanie
Subject: Re: How would you respond?
In reply to: Richard 's message, "Re: How would you respond?" on 17:15:23 06/19/15 Fri

Thanks for the details Richard,
I can certainly see two strong women having opposing opinions, and glad that your wife isn't of the opinion that gender expression/curiosity isn't wrong. As to motivations. I didn't get the feeling in the way you presented your story that your mother was doing anything but allowing you an opertunity to best find an answer to your question. And from a mother who was an open enough person to say why not do it through emmercing yourself in that question. I do believe experience gives the best answers. I think you would have included the disdain your mother had for your dad if that was her motive. I can see that your wife might see that, because she has been exposed to the after divorce world that existed between your dad and mom. She did see her as you did during your youth. And because there is that "concept of "revenge or determination" that can preoccupy an already made up mind. Your wife's conclusion makes the most sense.
My biggest pet peeve as I have mentioned in previous posts is that cross in gender guidelines for boys is always thought of as a negative, but when we cross gender lines with our daughters we are providing them with strength courage and determination. There would never have been a consideration had you been a girl and your dad was weak and your mom wanted to teach you that being a girl could mean being strong and doing so by emmercing you into a boys world.

[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]