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Date Posted: 22:37:53 08/29/12 Wed
Author: TKG1700 (happy)
Subject: Re: My Run Away Vietnam Bride
In reply to: tony tan 's message, "Re: My Run Away Vietnam Bride" on 20:55:23 08/25/12 Sat

There is a chinese idiom saying,"lu yao zhi ma li, ri jiu jian ren xin". Well grossly translated to english or possibly should have a english equivalent: "you will know the horse power through the long road, and as the days goes by, you will get to know a person heart and soul!"

Reason are plentiful for run away Vietnam bride, 2 years, even 10 years. Things change, love fade, feelings change, or they have found a greener pasture elsewhere..pressured by family.. all can contributed to their MIA-missing in action.

From my story and encounter, I feel that short sadness is still better than long term suffering! Why hold on if people want to go? Can you repair a broken mirror? Look around, friend, there are temptations everywhere, every now and then, better player come out to outsmart you! It's the strong will that should hold on a relationship, not a marriage that is bought with money! You can probably argue that in the first place when two met, the girl can even swear they marry because of true love. This will change, my friend, when time goes by, love will finally go for the true test! By then, isn't it too late, when you are bound by an idiot piece of marriage cert? And think of it, what can be more stupid as the poor soul who has been deserted have to foot lawyer fee to get the marriage void?

You have seen my site with plentiful of run away brides happening almost everywhere, most of them because of money! Do you know in Vietnam, it is a dog-eat-dog society? In fact they also have dog farm where dogs are reared and sold to their market for eaten! I presume most of the Vietnam bride married overseas are from those country side and are generally not rich! They marry overseas in hope that the ‘rich’ husband can fund her and her family! That’s their easiest choice to get out of poverty.
Take the story of the china farmer who thought he has a good deal in getting his Vietnam bride, not knowing she is already married to a poor woodcutter and has a son. His father does not care but pressurized her to get money to ‘supplement’ his alcoholic behavior. This is family pressure. Or take the 20 missing bride all in one short, where it is most like under the control of cheating gang to get money! That is to say, it’s very dangerous to marry someone of different background, culture, educational level, men are on the losing side, where the law ‘always’ will presume the girl is been ill-treated to run-away.
Hell has no fury like a woman scorned! See how when couples split, the woman make the hell out of it to split the assets! Vietnam bride may or may not create a scene, but they will soon be especially when they know how to deal with men by law. It’s true that even when they are married in Vietnam, they can still go to other country and sign on the marriage cert again! Would you be bothered to check? If you go through agent or friend, do you think they will check it for you? You will think so but actually they didn’t. It is too late when problems arises. In the past in Vietnam, some of these marriage don’t even go by the law, just a few tables and gather the Village head for dinner and declare they are married. If you are rich, it will not be surprising to keep one or two mistress already!
In Vietnam, the girls thinking is to work and feed the family. The men don't actully work hard. So they go a great length to search for money. It may or may not be their own idea to run away, but with so much temptation outside, why not let go should they wanted to?
Nowadays if you intend to marry a Vietnam bride, be prepared to be an ATM for her and her family to dig. It is because they want you to support her and also her family. Her father, alcoholic, her mother can fall sick at any time, her brother/sister no money to go school, her house needs refurnishing..and so on. Once your ‘funds’ dry out, most likely it’s time for her to go. Do you think as a poor girl, they can be bothered what is true love? Stay with you through “thick and thin”. I know you know.
Be whatsoever the reasons behind, cross bother Vietnam bride marriage should be banned. And I am glad the Vietnam government has clamp down all these marriage agency. Not only all there run-away bride create social problems, this kind of marriage also do not last long. But strangely, you may also have heard of Vietnam man abuses their wife, and the wife still love them! Maybe it’s their culture, only their own man who stay there, knows how to deal with their woman. So the man overseas, you are still on the losing end.
I learnt my lesson, with curse and swear, have you learn something today?



>>I have heard so manycases of run away vietnamese
>brides,esp.after 2 years.Some even abandoning their
>children. What are the reasons ? Some said they
>actually have boyfriends/husbands back home in vietnam

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