Author:
Russ
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Date Posted: 18:38:04 09/27/12 Thu
Two Answers
"First, you wrote that, "most always it (spanking)is
utilized in conjunction with other punishments." Do you
ever use these non-corporal punishments in lieu of
spanking, rather than in addition to spanking? Why/why
not?" Our family goal is the dual objective of
punishing wrong doing in such a manner that the
likelihood of future disobedience is made less likely.
Spanking is a powerful tool for both objectives, but
certainly it is not the only tool. Much depends upon
the specific disobedience and the circumstances
surrounding that disobedience. If it was a thoughtless
act in which one of the boys simply acted without
thinking then the matter can be handled with a
one-to-one talk. Some disobedience is more premeditated
and best addressed with a stern warning that any
repetition will be met with a licking. Other
disobedience, especially that in direct violation of
established household rules, will merit an immediate
paddling.
"Secondly, when spanking was begun (approximately) at
age five with your children, did your wife spank them
then, or were they always made to "wait until your
father gets home." The reason I bring this up, is that
spanking is (at the younger ages, especially) most
effective when as closely linked in time to the behavior
for which the child is punished." Initially, at
approximately age 5 when spankings were begun, my wife
administered the licks and for the precise reason you've
mentioned --- the importance of immediately linking the
negative behavior to the punishment. If I was home at
the time then I'd assume the role of disciplinarian. As
each boy has now grown older and is able to understand
the concept of disobedience and punishment being
seperated in time I now administer the paddling later in the day upon my return.
One Question
Bob, you've indicated in responses both at this Forum
and other Spank With Love Voy Forums that bare
bottom spankings is your norm when the father (versus
the mother) spanks his son. In a recent response to
Beverly, in fact, you wrote "If your husband is
spanking, however, it must be understood by your husband
and your son that "bare bottom" WILL be the method."
Both my Bruce and Adam frequently take their licks on
their bare bottoms so I'm not at all opposed to this
spanking mode. What I'm wondering, however, is why you
feel so strongly that bareness is important. Is it a
psychological issue? I have vivid memories of my
lickings as a teenage in which I received the paddle
both over my blue jeans and with jeans/under pants down
around my ankles. Very honestly I never experienced
much difference in the intensity of the lickings either
way. Certainly thin briefs or boxer shorts will not
effect the intensity level. Thanks for satisfying my
curiosity.
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