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Russ
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Date Posted: 18:13:46 10/02/12 Tue
Pat,
Within your Friday, September 28 post you asked if my boys have been paddled at school and, if so, are they again spanked at home. Within that post's concluding remarks you added the conlusion that a ". . . double jeopardy rule works."
My younger son has not yet experience the paddle at school but his older brother has taken licks outside the classroom in the hallway and bent over his principal's desk on several occasions. A "Discipline Report" is send home with each student punished in any form (detention hall, additional assignments, paddling, etc.) during the day. Parent are requested to read, sign, and return this form the following morning with the boy or girl. Whenever Bruce is punished he and I meet to review his Discipline Report following the evening meal. He's given opportunity to explain what happened and is encouraged to offer his view of the circumstances. We've found his school administrator and teachers to be extra patient and fair; nonetheless, Bruce is given every opportunity to defend himself.
Do I spank after reviewing a Discipline Report? Yes, Sir; you bet that I do. And at least a couple of reason explain my pracice.
First, Bruce and Adam have heard us repeatedly state that both Mom and Dad view the public school as an extention of their parental authority. It is solely our responsibility to educate our boys yet the nature of modern society requires that we request the assistance of non-family members to help us with our reponsibility. The public school is the agency that we have selected to help with our educational goals. As a result, disobedience during the school day is just as much an affront against us as it is against teachers, principals, coaches, etc. A paddling at school allows punishment to be administered rapidly following Bruce's disobedience. The licking that I adminster later that evening is several hours removed from his disobedience. It demonstrate, however, that parents and school personnel stand united in a refusal to tolerate noncompliance.
Secondly, home lickings following school paddlings are hopefully a way to counter the cavalier attitude toward the paddle that teenage boys sometimes develop. [Hey, look, Pat, I once was a teenage boy myself taking licks at school and feeling pretty macho about it. My paddlings sometimes even became the bragging right among my buddies!] The goal is to help Bruce understand that if he thinks he'll use his school's paddle to feel macho then he'll do so at the peril of the spanking strap that he'll recive later that evening. I still have vivid memories of how my Dad's strap kept me rather humble with my buddies after getting the paddle at school, and for certain it made it lots more difficulty for me to feel either macho and/or cavalier about any of it.
Hope these thoughts are of value for you and your sons. Like you, I know for certain that the Double Jeopardy Rule accomplishes everything (and even more) that is intended.
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