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Subject: Re: Seeing Eye-to-Eye on Discipline Issues with Spouse

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Anthony

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Date Posted: 18:48:06 09/29/12 Sat
In reply to: Bob E. 's message, "Seeing Eye-to-Eye on Discipline Issues with Spouse" on 20:06:42 09/26/12 Wed

My wife & I don't always agree on how to punish the kids. But once we decide on what their punishment will be then we back each other. I think that is so important for the kids to see.

If the punishment has already been given, such as a spanking, then even if the other doesn't agree with it we still back each other, at least in front of the kids. They have to know that they can't play one parent against another when it comes to their discipline.

An example I can give is an incident the summer before last. Our nephew was staying with us during this time. He is between Sean & Kevin age wise. The boys thought it would be cool to capture bugs, spiders etc & zap them in the microwave and watching them "pop". Angela was busy upstairs with the girls. You can imagine the mess the boys made in the microwave. She was angry & upset to say the least and made them clean the microwave as best they could. Then all 3 got a pretty good spanking. She told me about the incident when I got home from work that evening. I couldn't help but laugh and she got upset with me for that. I guess I just looked at it as boys being boys. We did have to buy a new microwave. Bug guts are really hard to clean off a microwave. But even with that I didn't think they deserved a spanking for it. Grounding them or making them pay for the new microwave would have been more effective I thought. So we disagreed on that but I still backed her decision.

There are always going to be disagreements about raising your kids & what the right decisions should be. I think it's important for the parents to communicate & compromise when it's necessary.

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Author: Mitch [ Edit \| View ]	Date Posted: 15:51:40 10/05/12 Fri My wife Susan and I are in agreement with disciplining our boys 10 & 12. Susan was very much influenced by my mom who used bare bottom hairbrush spankings on me and Susan spanks the boys the same way, even for minor infractions. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]