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Subject: Your daughter refusing to serve any detentions in protest Author: Bob [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 21:31:24 06/25/25 Wed Your daughter has completed her freshman year of private all girls high school. During the school year, she was well behaved and not punished by the school. However, several of her classmates broke minor rules and had to serve a after school detention for 45 minutes where they could do homework. For the new school year, the school says that any girl who gets detention must stay after school and just sit there for 30 minutes. They will no longer be able to do homework in detention. Your daughter, and most of her classmates feel this is a bad rule change so they have drafted a letter to the school that says if they get detention they will not serve it. They understand that if they get detention and they do not serve it they will get ISS. Your daughter was one of the students that signed the letter. Your daughter tells you about the letter and that she is one of the students that signed it. She also tells you that she is going to do her best not to get detention this year but there is a reasonable chance she will and if so she will not serve it in protest. At that point, she is likely to get ISS which she will serve. She also hopes that if she ends up in ISS you will be understanding and not applying the paddle to her bottom. What should you tell your daughter? [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Your daughter refusing to serve any detentions in protest Author: Dan [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 22:52:37 06/25/25 Wed I think their protest is rediculous. A detention should be a punishment. If it's merely a quiet time to do homework, it's only a normal study time and not a punishment. This 30 minutes' quiet is also a really weak punishment anyway. Many meditate or pray for that time without it being considered punishment. As a parent you can always override their decision. I would say I don't care what you signed, I am overriding you, and you will accept this punishment. I would also make it clear that I would augment any school punishment with corporal discipline when she came home. Given that clarity, she is nuch less likely to need it, and she knows what will happen if she does. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: Your daughter refusing to serve any detentions in protest Author: Brett [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 01:25:11 06/26/25 Thu I would talk with her about it and get a better idea of her reasoning behind her decision. I don't see why the school would use In-School-Suspension for this, but maybe that would be better for her in this situation. It might never even come up anyway, as she was well-behaved all year and never had to serve detention, which shows she is responsible. She deserves to be heard. After listening and talking it over, if I think she is making a bad decision, I'll tell her to take the 30 minutes of detention, which she will do because that's just the kind of daughter she is. :) [ Post a Reply to This Message ]