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Date Posted: 22:01:13 01/21/16 Thu
Author: Alfred for Rob and Susan
Subject: Re: The Immense Value of Discussing Lifelong Memory
In reply to: Rob 's message, "Re: The Immense Value of Discussing Lifelong Memory" on 20:22:10 01/21/16 Thu

Susan and Rob both are very courageous. I was always quite distressed beforehand and never managed to get through one composed. In my case, I was commenting even before #1 landed.

Rob makes such a good point about resisting or in my case, reaching around. It almost guaranteed that several spanks would land on the same tender spot!

Susan, how do you react to one of your children getting through #1 to #5 successfully? Do you make sure #6 or #7 breaks their stoicism? Or do you take it easy and just see if they can make it all the way? Also, do you ever deliberately spank in the same spot? Oh did I hate doubles and triples!

Rob makes a good point about feeling sheepish after getting a good one. I did always vow to myself not to earn another so in that sense they always worked! I am not totally clear that this vow was based on appreciation of why I had made a poor choice. I think it was much more pragmatic -- I just didn't want another spanking.





>I was quiet and sad before a spanking. When I was
>younger the tears would flow naturally. As I got
>older I was more stoic about it. I'd make noises,
>like ooh and ouch and move around a bit after a sharp
>spank but I didn't cry much. Moving around was always
>a mistake as the next spank would land in a worse
>place than had I stayed still, but sometimes I
>couldn't help it.
>
>Spankings always stung and were definitely unpleasant.
> The worst part of it (especially when older) was just
>the fact that everyone knew you'd been spanked and
>after a spanking I just didn't want to face anyone or
>see anyone.
>
>During this stretch of time is when some deep thinking
>took place, and where some personal growth also
>occurred. I'd just be alone in my room thinking.
>During that thinking time sometimes I'd break down in
>tears either out of guilt, or anger at myself for
>whatever I'd done or not done.
>
>Then I'd usually vow to myself that I'd never do
>whatever got me into trouble again. A lot of the time
>I was able to make good on that vow, and as I got
>older fewer and fewer spankings occurred.
>
>Then I'd eventually make my way out of my room and
>back to the other people in kind of a sheepish way.
>Fortunately, my sisters were kind and sensitive about
>it as we'd all been in the same position.
>
>So I look at spanking with a real mixed view. The
>spanking itself was not a positive experience and you
>don't learn anything by the act itself. It's
>definitely lousy for one's self-esteem although maybe
>in some cases that's a good thing. Sometimes I needed
>to be taken down a few pegs and a spanking always did
>that. I think because it seems drastic and traumatic
>(to the recipient) it really causes you to look inward
>at what you're doing, and a lot of that post-spanking
>reflection time was good for me, in changing my
>behavior.

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