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Subject: Re: What is a "normal" spanking for y'all?


Author:
Taylor
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Date Posted: 10:09:50 12/15/25 Mon
In reply to: Steph 's message, "What is a "normal" spanking for y'all?" on 13:29:26 12/11/25 Thu

We are proud parents of a delightful adopted seven year old girl, and a two year old son we were blessed with soon after adopting his sister. I w s brought up with spanking, and have actually always believed in it, even as a kid.

However, because of her background we were reluctant to spank our daughter. I did occasionally spank. But they were few and far between and weak (not even bare as I had been spanked).

The product of our neglect was an increasingly insolent spoiled child. After talking with my mom, and much prayer, we decided we were doing no favors to our daughter. I now spank and it is the difference between light and day. She is sweet and once again a delight.

I spank her bare rear with my hand, with her positioned over my lap. I spank hard, alternating cheeks the way my mom did
I spank for about a minute I suppose. Afterwards we hug and talk. I think she feels the same sense of catharsis I did as a child.

Our son is too young to spank, but we are not going to delay as we did with his sister

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Brooke
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Date Posted: 12:02:59 12/15/25 Mon

Hello. Do you spank in her bedroom?
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Author:
Taylor
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Date Posted: 09:55:37 12/16/25 Tue

Hi Brooke,

I spank in her bedroom, except a couple times when we were away from home and she needed immediate discipline.

Taylor
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Brooke
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Date Posted: 10:17:57 12/16/25 Tue

Hello Taylor. What was her reaction to receiving her first spanking?
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Steph
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Date Posted: 19:16:59 12/15/25 Mon

Hi Taylor,

I am glad that you were able to realize the benefits of spanking in time for your daughter to be raised better, like y'all were growing up! It really does have a tendency to make our kids sweeter after the fact, too... and overall just more stable and grounded, even. Kids need consistent expectations and boundaries, and sometimes a spanking is the best way to ensure those boundaries stay up.

What started spanking at age 3 for our kids, and those spankings were of course much shorter than what Caroline especially gets now that she is 6. Do y'all have a similar starting age?

Best,
Steph
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Taylor
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Date Posted: 10:25:37 12/16/25 Tue

Hi Steph,

I appreciate your thoughtful comments. Your remarks about spanking making our kids sweeter reminded me of a book I read in college while preparing a research paper (I was a social worker major) where I tried to make the case for spanking:

One spring morning we visited with Hannah, a mother of seven. Having just cleaned up from weeding the garden, she invited us into her living room, where we talked about child rearing. We told her that some of our friends who are dentists, nurses, and doctors say that, compared to many non-Amish children they encounter, Amish offspring are quiet, well mannered, and well behaved. “Why might that be?” we asked. Without hesitation or a trace of humor, Hanna responded, “Oh, it’s the spanking that makes them so nice.”

Hannah explained that, when children are about two years old, their wills need to be broken. If it’s not done at that stage, she said, they will likely become disobedient and rebellious adults. The spanking helps correct them and “make them nice.” Another mother explained that when children are old enough to fold their hands at prayer time, they are also old enough to be reprimanded with light spanks when disobedient…
https://epointchurch.wordpress.com/2011/01/27/amish-on-spanking/

Our son will start getting some light hand spanks at age three, if not a little sooner(my mom says spanking was invented for the "terrible twos"lol). Our daughter will start getting my hairbrush at eight(the age I started getting it) or sooner if needed.

Taylor
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Jen
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Date Posted: 04:27:52 12/18/25 Thu

Hi Taylor,

Yes indeed, the Amish have it right when it comes to spanking, in my opinion! And to do it earlier on so you don't have to do it as frequently later on.

It sounds like we have similar sorts of timelines with our kids and when to start in general! I started with a hard but light wooden spoon for both of ours already, but when Caroline turns maybe 7-8 we may indeed switch to something a little bigger, too. I have found that as Caroline has gotten older her spankings have needed to get a little longer, too. But I am sure that will be the case for Aidan, too.

Best,
Jen


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