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Subject: Re: People’s opinions

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Angela

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Date Posted: 10:59:31 12/09/25 Tue
In reply to: Ryan 's message, "People’s opinions" on 16:39:19 12/08/25 Mon

This was not a "Spank With Love" spanking. Twelve/thirteen years ago my husband and I were delighted to find an online group "Spank With Love". We firmly believed in spanking' but only if it was done uot of love.

My husband wrote in the parens foru[m:

I don't consider myself a strict parent but I am not shy about spanking my kids. I'm probably less strict than my wife but she is with them more than I am.

Like others here we have rules and guidelines for our kids' behavior. They know the consequences when they misbehave and we try to be consistent with their discipline.

We think it's important too, that we reassure our kids after a spanking that they are still loved. We just didn't like what they did to deserve the spanking or other
punishment.

Bob E. responded:

Amen to your last paragraph, Anthony! It isn't just "important" to reassure kids after a spanking that they are still loved- IT IS ESSENTIAL! This is something that my Dad did NOT do with me, and in my review of what I needed to do to "spank with love," this was at the top of my list! I wait a bit of time after a spanking (depending upon the age) for my boy to regain some composure, and then go back to hug, kiss, give a back-rub, and do anything that is needed to make sure that I have convinced my son of his complete repair as far as his offense is concerned, and that he is unconditionally loved by his parents. I don't care how much time I might need to spend for this; if there is time to spank, there is time for the after-spank reassurance.

This mother appeared out of control.There is no love there. I would like to see the aftermath, and know more about the family (but an older son did say it was common).

From what I can see, there is no love there, Just anger, which means it was a beating!

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