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Author: Kristina (Amused) |
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Date Posted: 02:29:26 01/22/24 Mon In reply to: Cath to Kristina 's message, "Re: New Years Resolutions" on 00:05:25 01/22/24 Mon That was a long, but necessary read, and it was lovely too. some may not like these long messages or the content may be stricter than some, but i wont stand for slander and drama hehe everyone is right to do things the way they feel is right! Hubby was home on Saturday I did tell him i made friends with a likeminded family. He read some of our communication and was impressed and also kissed my forehead saying your family sounds lovely. Please for your hubby let him know if he did end up permitting a secure email account thats encrypted to talk on, that it could be considered lie a gift for both of our families since we feel similar about discipline. and yes I know doll is a common southern thing, but if I hear "oh bless your lil heart!" I know that one isn't as sweet as it sounds on the surface LOL QA 1 that is very sweet, what hubby decided, at least I think it is, loving discipline IS a form of a gift I feel, so very symbolic. Debbie is so cute, I bet her eyes were like saucers when her friend told her about it. and yep Jimmy's reaction is typical of boys, they want the bare minimum of spankies than can lol Make sure the wrapping says from Santa, so they can blame him if they don't like their gift very much! QA2 your hubby is a gent lol QA3 Soaping is not always used with a spanking, but it is always at least accompanied by corner, but it is for sure often with a hand spanking. You want to use bar soap never liquid, and you can search online they do make soap for it i think, but you don't want a lot of additives, so i find dove works best as its pure Lever 2000 is kind of lemony, and the yuckiest tasting I know from experience is Irish spring Sometimes they may have "stronger" bathroom habits in the morning, but nothing serious ive found, and I mean ive ingested a lot of soap as a girl! SO I use it for things like Cussing, using Lord's name in vain, any sort of backtalk. Speaking overly negative about other people, forgetting manners, and since we do first time obedience complaining or whining when asked to do something I do it how my momma did. lead them by the ear to the bathroom, I speak firmly but in a loving non angry tone whole way of course. Shirts come right off, as it can be messy. I run the water and get out the bar. I tend to keep one bar that has been used in only their mouths, so one for each of them on the counter. put a wet washcloth and the bar in the warm water, and I wrap the soap in the cloth and lather it up (by the way I talk and lecture all throughout the process) Scrub the inside of their mouth, the inside cheeks, under tongue, tongue itself, roof of mouth.. I scrub a lil bit then take it out for them to catch breath and re lather the cloth. and i do it just a bit more. Its not a long one, but I sit on closed toilet seat lid, put them over lap and give about 30 firm hand spanks. THEN they may rinse. Corner time is then in living room QA4 as difficult as it can be sometimes, well, nothing good is ever without a challenge, go through the rain to get the sunshine. I would say don't ever skip a night of bedtime spanking. I WOULD say instead, you can occasionally reduce it to a hand spanking and short paddling instead, a fair compromise. I know that certain.. reactions.. in males are common when witnessing all of that, but as Christians, you really need to watch that with Jimmy, its only natural to like to watch, and you're right that does help ease the fear and such and the nervousness with the discipline. BUT lust in the heart is not good as Christian parents, and you can teach Jimmy ways to reduce excitement, breathing techniques, focusing on something mundane and boring or even counting. And I really think some of his reactions at bedtime watching may be very close to punishable offences. Thoughts? Respect for women is important, treating them the way a Godly man should, and he is clearly developing some of that, but id say still some work you can do there. QA5 when i punish, we talk and cuddle and comfort only after corner after the spanking. Corner is nude, hands on head, legs apart. no rubbing or putting hands down. USUALLY its fifteen minutes, but I have done up to half hour on some occasions. I instruct them to think about what earned the punishment and how to avoid it in future QA6 that excitement i mentioned, yes, Debbie and her reaction and seeming joy/curiosity about everyone being nude for it, warn her that repeating it over and over is naughty and immodest, i get shes excited which is cute though, just within reason QA7 the comfort and sweetness you show the girls during Jimmy's turn is sweet and lovely, shows you really care for them I'm sure they feel that QA8 the reasons for doing diaper position how I do, are the reasonings my mom did with me. It is a million times more effective than the flying V shape ;) I put two pillows on the bed, and she sits her butt on them and then I lay her on her back. For you since you have hubby spanking and you holding her, have the girl sit her butt on the pillow, lay back her head in your lap like usual. instruct her to open her legs, then grab one ankle in each hand, and pull them right back, as close to one ankle by each ear as you can, kids are usually very flexible It is more exposed and childish like when u used to change them, it tightens everything up nicely, and well the exposure is symbolic to me, when bad behavior is exposed, its like them being exposed in this way my daughter has to hold her own legs in position with me, but shes pretty good about it, but if she gets out of position I just patiently wait and help her back in position then continue BEDTIME ROUTINE I will try my best to describe my bedtime routines, usually its just me so it is different, but when hubby is home he does assist some, but just more like asks me "what can I do, where/how would you like me helping this evening etc I use my phone as a timer that plays a very big role in the evenings, I want to make sure I am giving a sound session for sure. I will also give two versions of certain parts, what I do without lexan and what I do now with it lol So, when I put one over my lap the other just watches close, we do all of this in my bedroom as its a neutral place since kids don't share a room, but big comfy chair for one to sit in during it Now you said you wouldn't use corner for after bedtime spanking and I agree. It all starts with bath time, mine are a bit younger, but I'd suggest you could try the same, just sit in the room with them during shower or bath and just chat and bond and laugh.. Bath done, they run off to my bedroom, and they are to each wait in an opposite corner, hands on head. On the wall in each of said corners we actually taped a paper to the wall, has some verses that allow them to "meditate" on Gods word while waiting the ten minutes before I come in. Proverbs 22:6, PROVERBS 10:13, Proverbs 29:15 Ephesians 6:1-4 I used to enter the room with hairbrush and wood ruler in my hand, spoon I suppose would be my version of the strap lol I walk into my room now lexan in hand. they turn to look at me as I go and sit on my bed, I like to wear a nightie or robe if its cold too I say "come here my darlings" or something like that, they stand there I rub their bottoms and say I love them very much and its time, and I send my son to sit in the comfy chair and right away put my darling girl over my knee. Completely nude, I get the spankee over my lap. I hum a cute lil tune and talk about what's going on, as I apply the baby oil to bottom and thighs. Then, just to make things easier on everyone, right at the start, I lock one leg over theirs, and gently but firmly hold their hands pinned to their back, only enough to be slightly uncomfy and stop reaching. My timer is set for ten minutes. I begin briskly, medium hard. I spank down the right bum cheek and down the thighs except I go to about inch above the knee instead of just half way. I think spank UP the other thigh to the top of bottom cheek again, and do it once more. Timer I pause while they calm some and I rub their back and like you comfort and wipe tears. I tell them "ok we have to finish your warm up" and then I don't speak much at all during. I do a round of 20 or so spanks that are medium firm and a few seconds apart, and then the pace gradually increases, think of like a dubstep beat in a dance club before the beat drop, the speed ramping up and up.. and just near the end slow it down again. with hugs and cuddles and wipe her tears and snot, they switch places and she gets in comfy chair to watch. PRE Lexan: daughter, laying on her back pillow or two under her hips, legs up and back like I described. Reapply baby oil, then shed get 10 with brush and 10 with the ruler plus a few more minutes of handspanking. My son would get it same but laying on his tummy instead. AFTER Lexan: daughter in legs up position, son on tummy like before. Re apply the baby oil, then timer is set for a full twenty mins. (when we got the paddle I had hubby test it one afternoon when kids were with a friend, to see if we could go hard for that long and not bruise lol) I soundly paddle and yes they are a mess, so during it the while time I am talking encouraging and lovingly but still firmly. There are a couple 2.5 minute breaks in there to help them get through it, holding a teddy bear is allowed it really helps them for comfort. Once finished, I spend 15 mins or so with each of them one on one in their own bedrooms, cuddling, talking, laughing, comforting as much as I can. But I don't want it to feel TOO easy, so usually ill give like 5 good HARD hand swats just to get a lil emotion to help them fall asleep with. Sorry everyone that our correspondence is so long! lol I for one do appreciate and like it that way though. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] |
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