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Date Posted: 00:05:25 01/22/24 Mon In reply to: Kristina (wow Cath) 's message, "Re: New Years Resolutions" on 13:56:46 01/21/24 Sun Dear Kristina, This is going to be very, very long--anyone not up for a long read please just pass over this--but I am going to try to answer the questions you asked me in your very thoughtful and encouraging note, Kristina. I hope I can clarify or add to some of the things you were wondering about. Q. Did you tell the kids you ordered a new paddle or shall it be a surprise? A. You’ll laugh, I think. My husband read how you made a Christmas gift of a Lexan paddle for each of your two, and he thought we should do the same with ours even if Christmas has come and gone. I plan to wrap whatever box it comes in with some of the leftover wrapping and label it to all three, then we’ll give it to them at dinner time and tell them it’s a late gift. All three of them have heard about the Lexan and Debbie, always one to speak her mind, often without thinking, said when I mentioned these paddles, “A boy in our class said his mum got one and he says she spanks him with it forever and ever and ever because he doesn’t get bruises!” My husband and I laughed at that but Annie and Jimmy looked at her like they wanted to strangle her. I did tell them I was thinking of getting one. Q. Tell your husband thank you for allowing you to write to me, and thanks for the compliment. A. I did, and he said you sound like a real doll (don't be offended by that description, that is a big complement from him) with a great sense of humor and he said he’d bet you give your kids lots of physical love, hugs and kisses, like we do. Q. I will tell you in a follow up post in great detail our bedtime routine but I wanted to ask questions about yours first, to clarify some things. [As to kids making a fuss about going to bed, Kristina, you commented]: I feel that begging and fussing like they used to about bedtime, should mean bringing them to the bathroom, soaping their mouths and putting them back to bed, as that I consider backtalk for sure. A. Well, thank goodness under our new spankings at bedtime routine, we no longer have those problems at all—they are completely gone now! Hooray! And they really were a constant hassle and irritation for some years. However, your point about washing mouths out with soap was interesting because we have never done that. I think I would like to do that with them from time to time as a different punishment and so I would be very glad to have more detailed instructions from you about how to go about that—what kind of soap, how to apply it, how long to leave it in before one lets them rinse it out, etc. As I read that suggestion I picture myself with the three kids standing in line before or after a spanking while I washed their mouths out with soap, and I really liked that idea, and I thought, indeed, that could be a nice addition to their discipline—no danger of any real harm (if one does so carefully)--but a very uncomfortable and tear-producing experience for them I would think. Am I right? Q. That fifteen minutes of waiting [for us to come up in the evening and spank them] must be very effective, shaking and chatting to each other "how hard will they be tonight??" Have you ever snuck to the door to listen or peek in to see the cute display going on? A. No, because they are listening for us. We do come up promptly, and they can hear us go into our bedroom first where I slip off the clothes I’ve been wearing and slip on a bathrobe over my bra and panties. I do that so I don’t get snot and tears all over my clothes while spanking them, and I also know that all three really like to go over my bare legs for spanking rather than over jeans, or a skirt or slacks of some kind. My husband also slips off his shirt and trousers and puts on a bathrobe and slippers for the same reason, but he keeps his bathrobe on while he spanks while I take mine off once I am ready to take one of them over my lap. We are only in our bedroom four or five minutes to do this change and then the kids hear us coming halfway down the hall to the girls’ bedroom. And, of course, we know the agitation and nervousness the three are experiencing sitting naked in front of each other and waiting to be spanked. We think that “tease element” adds a lot the spankings which is a good thing we feel. Q. Are they wide eyed when that brush and strap are seen? And do they beg to get out of it at that point? A. Oh, yes, all three are wide-eyed and very nervous when they see us come in but that was much worse early on when we first started these bedtime spankings. And they definitely used to plead and beg for us to let them off “just this one night, oh, please, Mom, couldn’t you let us off just this one night!” But they know now this is an important part of their discipline routine and they are waiting, teary-eyed for sure, and obviously nervous, but actually now pretty calmly, which shows you how easily most kids adjust to such regular bedtime spankings once they know they are not getting out of it. (We do, on our own, let them off and skip a night now and then—which they love and they show great relief when we do that, so they are ever hopeful until the event--but when we do skip a night, it is our idea and our decision.) Q. It is wonderful you make sure to have Kleenex and washcloths handy. If I may make another suggestion, a bottle of baby oil [should be] kept there as well, its good to apply before any spanking, adds to the sting without any damage done. A. KRISTINA! THAT IS AN EXCELLENT IDEA! I had heard that once a long time ago, but more or less forgot it. I will get some this week and put a nice coating on their bottoms and thighs before we spank, and—as you say—that should add a nice extra sting to the spankings. Q. Beds being far apart means a wall for corner time. A. Corner time is something else Tom and I have not used and that could be a nice addition to their other spankings. Any suggestions on how you use this would be very welcome. I would not use it after their bedtime spankings, however, because all three are bawling hard when we finish and I love getting Jimmy on his bed and stroking and kissing and petting him while he falls asleep crying, and Tom loves to do the same thing with the two girls. Since the last part of the bedtime spankings has been Tom’s paddling of Jimmy, the two girls have quieted down a fair bit from their diaper position strappings while Jimmy is being paddled, so when Tom gets them face down on their own beds, he usually gives them both a last 20 smacks each with his hand on their recently strapped bottoms so that assures they are crying good when he kisses them and hugs them and leaves them to cry that out and fall asleep. When I am across the hall cuddling Jimmy, we can hear Tom do that, of course, and I will often tease Jimmy by saying something like, “Your father is giving the girls a last spanking to sleep on. Should I give you one, too, Honey?” And, after just being paddled by Tom, he protests vigorously sounding like a five-year-old, “No, no, no, Mum! I don’t need any more! Honest! I’ll fall right to sleep, Honest!” Q. I think that you two facing each other [on the two beds] is fantastic for the view for both of you to see how effective both spankings are, but for the kids to see each getting spanked also. A. Yes, we do enjoy that and it helps me to stop spanking the girl I am spanking at about the same time Tom gets through with the other. Of course, as I mentioned, Annie’s spanking is always a bit harder and a bit longer than her younger sister’s, but the difference is only a moment or so. Q. So when you started in September, how did you explain things? A. Well, Tom and I, once we decided that bedtime spankings sounded like a really good thing to do with our three, spent a lot of time talking it out together, and also talking about how this would work with respect to their other spankings during the week if any were needed. We did not want the other spankings to stop completely, and we both felt strongly that the kids would continue to benefit in a major way from frequent spankings rather than letting long periods pass between any other spankings they got, other than the nightly spankings at bedtime. So basically, on a Saturday, we sat the kids down and went over the whole situation. I remember Annie saying at one point, “Every night, Mom? You’re going to spank all of us every night! Oh, my Lord! EVERY NIGHT!” And the weird thing was, and this was really unexpected, they were all shocked but looking at the three of them listening wide-eyed, all of them were squirming in their chairs and looking at each other blushing, and all of them were getting a look on their faces that Tom and I agreed later was clearly one of barely controlled excitement. So we knew that all three were shocked but also tantalized by the prospect. And Debbie, for example, kept saying, “We’re all going to be naked, right! Right in front of each other! Is that right, Mum? We’ll all be naked when you and Daddy come up to spank us!” And the thing is—maybe the most surprising thing of all—not one of them panicked or got really upset or had any kind of temper tantrum about how we told them we were going to do things. In sum, they looked stunned, but also fascinated and tantalized by the prospect. Interesting, we felt. Q. So you mentioned the hand portion [of the bedtime spankings] is fairly short. How long if you had to guess is each of their hand spankings for bedtime? A. Neither Tom nor I have actually timed them, or even looked at a watch during those spankings, so it is very hard to answer that. We don’t do a particular time or a set number of spanks. Whether I have Annie or Debbie over my lap, I spank briskly at first and cover the whole bottom, the sit-spots and then I spank down the thighs to about halfway to the back of the knees. I start moderately to give the child a chance to adjust, and I give breaks as I go along, letting the girl catch her breath and quiet down a little, and letting her blow her nose and I wipe away with a wash cloth some of the tears. This also allows the kicking legs to settle down a bit. Then I spank gradually harder, another break and so on. And at some point when the girl is crying quite lustily and her legs are kicking steadily and I see that the whole spanking area is getting nicely red, I catch Tom’s eye again, and we both then give both girls a last breather and clean-up of snot and tears, and then and we both finish up with a last quite hard volley of spanks that always has the spanked girl bawling hard, and then we let them up, and the girls have their diaper position strappings still to come after Tom gives Jimmy a similar hand spanking. So I suppose with each girl the time from start to finish of their hand spankings may be somewhere between six to twelve minutes, or a bit longer, with the breathers and wipe-up breaks taking up a good part of that time. The key is that they have been spanked steadily and hard for a good part of that time so they are well-spanked when we finish, so that’s my best estimate. Q. What are Jimmy's reactions having to watch TWO hand spankings at same time before his own, and their reactions to seeing his? A. There is no question that Jimmy always enjoys watching his sisters get spanked and they enjoy anytime watching him get spanked. I personally think all three are lucky to have this situation where they get to see siblings of the opposite sex spanked. It is an excellent anatomy lesson for them (and I say that seriously, not as a joke) and seeing each other nude answers many questions for them that tend to drive a lot of kids really crazy as they get into their tweens and teens. Also, seeing the other kids get spanked, I believe, makes all of them less fearful about their own spankings—they see each other spanked hard, kicking and bawling, and then a couple of hours later they see those same siblings back to normal except for the continuing pain in their spanked parts which might last hours or even a day or so. Good, that’s actually reassuring for them in terms of their own spankings. Also, I really do believe that the sensual aspects of watching spankings and getting spanked, the excitement they feel, the arousal they experience watching the others spanked, all of that I believe makes them able to handle their own spankings better. And that is major point—the fact that these kids growing through their tweens and teens need and benefit from frequent corporal punishment. They do better on the whole when they are spanked fairly frequently. Q. Its great that you snuggle and comfort the girls as they are crying [from their own spankings] during Jimmy's spankings, but maybe you could make sure to also point and say "see how red his bum is getting?" "See how daddy controls his kicking?" "Oh, my, his bum is getting warm, huh girls?" “Remember darlings, a warm bottom means a warm heart, a sound spanking is an act of love!" A. OH, KRISTINA—YOU ARE SO LIKE ME, WE COULD BE SISTERS. That is exactly the kind of things I say to the girls while Jimmy is being spanked and while I have them cuddled up crying, one on each side of me. “Oh, girls, look at that paddle and how your Daddy is hitting Jimmy’s sit spots! Oh, that really makes his bottom bounce, doesn’t it?” And since we are sitting right across from Tom, Jimmy can hear me, too, when I’ll say things like, “Oh, Tom! That really makes Jimmy screech when you spank his thighs like that! Oh, yes, Tom, spank his thighs some more!” The thing is that some people, even spanking parents on this forum, may probably read that and think it is terrible and inexcusable for a parent to do that, but on the contrary that kind of teasing by a parent takes away any question of anger or upset with the child on the part of the parent. It is clear you are not angry at all with the child being spanked and that you are just teasing him or her and the other kids watching. It is the parents who spank with sour faces and gritted teeth, and who have anger pouring out of every pore, that will give kids nightmares about the spankings they get or see. (“When I get through with you today, you horrible brat, you’ll never do THAT again I can promise you! I’m going to spank you until you won’t sit down for a week!) Comments like that in a loud angry voice get the opposite effect from the giggling reactions I get from the two girls with my comments while Jimmy is getting spanked, or that I get from Jimmy or any of the kids with similar comments when one of the other kids is getting spanked by me or Tom. And I can tell from your suggested comments, Kristina, that you make the same kind of teasing comments to tantalize your kids that I do with mine, and I think that is great. Q. So, I really like what you said about the girls in diaper position with you holding their legs nice and wide, and back I assume so one foot is beside each ear? A. WOW! ANOTHER BIG SURPRISE, KRISTINA! I have never tried pulling the feet of the girl being spanked in diaper position back like that until they are beside each ear!! I can immediately see when I read that how that would really stretch the girl’s bottom and legs to the max, and give quite a different view to the spanker and to the one helping to hold the legs in place. I have always held the legs more or less straight up and spread in a “Y” figure. That is the way I held the legs of my three when they were young and being diapered, so I could clean their bottoms and the area between their legs and put on a fresh diaper, and when they were all young and of diaper age I did used to spank them in that position also from time to time. It never occurred to me to put a foot of one of my girl’s being spanked now beside each of her ears. Tell me about that, Kristina, how you do that and why? Is it better than having her legs straight up in a Vee? Q. Do you say anything during the strapping? A. See my comments above. I do a lot of teasing of the girl being spanked by Tom in the diaper position, and whenever they are spanked. I’ve gotten back reactions, too. This was Annie curled up in my lap on a day after Tom has given her a her diaper position spanking. “Oh, Mum, you were driving me crazy while Daddy spanked me. I thought I would scream when you said spank her some more on her thighs, Tom! Oh, yes! Spank her bottom hard, Tom! Mum, you are so terrible!” But then she is giggling and I am kissing her and hugging her and she will whisper in my ear something like, “Oh, Mum, Daddy really spanked me good today! I can’t sit without a pillow. He said he is going to spank Debbie after supper and I can’t wait to see him spank her!” Q. [Kristina, you say] the dance is all part of it, the spanky dance lol A. Yes, Kristina, I totally agree. Even when I have given one of them a fairly short but hard hand spanking, if I have done it right, I expect them to slide off my lap and dance up and down for several minutes in place at the very least, fanning their bottoms. If I have given a long spanking, hand and paddle to either the boy or either girl, then I usually expect and get a wild spanky dance when I let them up, with the child bawling and jumping up and down hysterically and with the tears and snot pouring out. I think a good spanky dance after a hard spanking tells you that you’ve done the job right. Q. How many swats does Tom give for Jimmy's hairbrush spanking? A. We literally, truthfully, never count swats or give a set number of swats or spanks. What I do, and Tom does the same, is spank carefully all over the spanking area and watch the color changes and listen to the crying child. That’s how we know when to pause and give breaks to let the child cry a bit and do a clean-up of face and neck, and that is how I know when to stop. And when I stop, I have a very well-spanked child bawling as she or he is sliding off my lap after even just a moderately hard spanking has been given. And when for some reason a more severe spanking was called for, I like to think the child has been “spanked to the brink” but not to excess (so in a couple of hours the child is fine again, just with a very sore and tender bottom, but at the end of the spanking crying hysterically). Q. Can I ask why you use a strap for the girls and not for him [Jimmy]? A. Because that was only recently introduced and we had only used it in the diaper position, and that was fine for the two girls but (we felt) too risky to use with a boy in the diaper position because of the proximity of his unprotected privates. However, you raised a good point, and Tom and I talked earlier today and we have decided that instead of the hairbrush for Jimmy on our nightly spankings, we are going to have him lie down on Annie’s bed with that pillow under his hips to raise his bottom up, and strap him, too. And we did that with him tonight in fact. After my hand spanking of Jimmy, and after the girls got their diaper position strappings, we put Jimmy on the bed and Tom gave Jimmy 15 hard whacks on his bottom and thighs with the belt. (He didn’t decide in advance how many to give Jimmy, just watched him and decided on how many as he actually strapped him. And he gave Jimmy just enough so he was really bellowing and bouncing when he stopped. Jimmy and the girls were all very proud of how well Jimmy took that strapping, so now that will be part of his bedtime spankings instead of using the paddle on him. I told Tom that when I was petting and stroking Jimmy in his bed tonight, he said to me, “I really took that strapping really good didn’t I, Mom? I don’t know how many Daddy gave me, I was crying too hard to count, but he gave me a lot and I stayed right in place, didn’t I? And I took every single one?” And I told him that, yes, he did, and I was just so proud of him, and he really took his strapping like a real man.” And when we first left the girls bedroom Jimmy had stopped at the bathroom to spend several minutes looking at himself in the full-length mirror on the bathroom door before we went on and he climbed into be. And while we talked once he was in bed, he pointed at his bottom and thighs and said, “Look at the belt marks, Mom! You can see the wide red stripes all over my bottom—see them, Mom!” And I assured him that I did indeed see them. Then he said in a gruff manly voice, “The belt really really hurts, Mom! It really set me on fire! But I can take it. I can take a good belting, Mom, and I did, didn’t I?” Honest, Kristina, sometimes I think I could just eat him with a spoon he is so cute! And I told him again how proud I was of him, and then, teasing him, I told him, “You are going to get lots of belting from now on, Little Man. Are you aware of that? Daddy is going to use that belt on you regularly now at your bedtime spankings. Are you ready to have that belt roast your bottom good every night now, Jimmy?” And he just sighed and groaned and said, “I know, I know. It’s okay. I can take a good belting. I took the belt really good.” As Jimmy was finally falling asleep, I left and, as usual, Tom and I retired to our bedroom and to say we were both “up” and riding on a high tonight is putting it mildly. Neither of us was a bit sleepy and so we got into bed and talked about the spankings and then, well let's just say we had a very active time for almost an hour or so, and then we did both fell asleep. And then, after about two hours, I woke up and came down here to our home office and decided to try to answer at least most of the questions you had posed, Kristina, since I can go back for a nap right after the kids are off to school tomorrow. Now, having made—I think--a pretty good run at your questions, I am going to stop now and go back to bed and get some needed sleep. I hope you and the others find this report of interest and not too ridiculously long when you find it tomorrow. I would love to hear back from you, Kristina, and from any of the others who have already commented, passing along your comments and reactions. Love and blessings to you all, Kath [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] |
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