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>Thank you, Meredith, I'll try. > >Many parents who use spanking know how it can turn a >naughty child into a good one very quickly. Spanked >children also know this on some level. They often >describe this as feeling "cleansed". How exactly does >that work? > >Those with no experience of spanking often assume that >this change is simply a result of fear. With >punishment spankings, that's probably true to some >degree, but it's not the whole story and not even the >most important part of it. What's more important is >that a spanking requires the child to show - under >intense pressure - exactly those qualities they need >to be good: humility, obedience, self-denial. They may >do so out of fear or simply to regain the approval of >a parent, but in showing them, they also experience >them. They feel what it's like to be good and, more >often than not, they rather like that feeling. > >The idea behind maintenance spankings (as I was taught >it) is surprisingly simple: The reasons why a spanking >makes you feel like a good girl have everything to do >with the qualities you need to endure it and very >little with the reason why it's given. Sure, with a >punishment spanking, there is a sense of atonement, of >guilt washed away. You don't get that with a >maintenance spanking, but even without the punishment >context, a good spanking allows you to practice >discipline and feel good about yourself in the end. If >anything that effect is stronger when it's not mixed >up with ideas of guilt and penance. > >If this explanation makes at least some sense to those >who are curious and open-minded about maintenance >discipline, it would make me very happy. > > >> >> Interesting perspective, you sound intelligent on >>the subject. Care to elaborate? >> >> >>>I have experienced them, and I cherish that >>>experience. What makes me wonder about >pro-maintenance >>>posts is that they often go into graphic details, but >>>seem to have no interest at all in sharing the >>>thinking behind an extremely unusual practice that >>>needs explaining. >>> >>>If you want to understand it at all, you need to dump >>>the idea that spanking can only ever be useful as a >>>punishment. As long as you cling to that, maintenance >>>spankings are obvious nonsense. >>> >>>>I never experienced something like it personally, >but >>>>sometimes I heave read in some fora or boards about >>>>people getting (or giving) so-called "maintenance >>>>spankings". >>>> >>>>For example every Sunday evening they got spanked so >>>>they would behave the rest of the week. >>>> >>>>My parents, and parents of everyone I knew who got >>>>spanked, only spanked when we misbehaved. I had >never >>>>heard of "maintenance spankings" before going in >fora >>>>like this one, and it always seemed a bit cruel to >>>me. >>>> >>>>Have you ever experienced "maintenance spankings" or >>>>knew someone who did? Or do you think these stories >>>>are just a load of tosh?

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