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>>Thank you, Meredith, I'll try. >> >>Many parents who use spanking know how it can turn a >>naughty child into a good one very quickly. Spanked >>children also know this on some level. They often >>describe this as feeling "cleansed". How exactly does >>that work? >> >>Those with no experience of spanking often assume that >>this change is simply a result of fear. With >>punishment spankings, that's probably true to some >>degree, but it's not the whole story and not even the >>most important part of it. What's more important is >>that a spanking requires the child to show - under >>intense pressure - exactly those qualities they need >>to be good: humility, obedience, self-denial. They may >>do so out of fear or simply to regain the approval of >>a parent, but in showing them, they also experience >>them. They feel what it's like to be good and, more >>often than not, they rather like that feeling. >> >>The idea behind maintenance spankings (as I was taught >>it) is surprisingly simple: The reasons why a spanking >>makes you feel like a good girl have everything to do >>with the qualities you need to endure it and very >>little with the reason why it's given. Sure, with a >>punishment spanking, there is a sense of atonement, of >>guilt washed away. You don't get that with a >>maintenance spanking, but even without the punishment >>context, a good spanking allows you to practice >>discipline and feel good about yourself in the end. If >>anything that effect is stronger when it's not mixed >>up with ideas of guilt and penance. >> >>If this explanation makes at least some sense to those >>who are curious and open-minded about maintenance >>discipline, it would make me very happy. >> >> >>> >>> Interesting perspective, you sound intelligent on >>>the subject. Care to elaborate? >>> >>> >>>>I have experienced them, and I cherish that >>>>experience. What makes me wonder about >>pro-maintenance >>>>posts is that they often go into graphic details, >but >>>>seem to have no interest at all in sharing the >>>>thinking behind an extremely unusual practice that >>>>needs explaining. >>>> >>>>If you want to understand it at all, you need to >dump >>>>the idea that spanking can only ever be useful as a >>>>punishment. As long as you cling to that, >maintenance >>>>spankings are obvious nonsense. >>>> >>>>>I never experienced something like it personally, >>but >>>>>sometimes I heave read in some fora or boards about >>>>>people getting (or giving) so-called "maintenance >>>>>spankings". >>>>> >>>>>For example every Sunday evening they got spanked >so >>>>>they would behave the rest of the week. >>>>> >>>>>My parents, and parents of everyone I knew who got >>>>>spanked, only spanked when we misbehaved. I had >>never >>>>>heard of "maintenance spankings" before going in >>fora >>>>>like this one, and it always seemed a bit cruel to >>>>me. >>>>> >>>>>Have you ever experienced "maintenance spankings" >or >>>>>knew someone who did? Or do you think these stories >>>>>are just a load of tosh? >Dear Esther, >You are right. >In the community where I live, girls, adult girls and >young females are spanked regularly. >I am 19 and I am still a virgin. I don't drink >alcohol, I don't smoke cigarettes, I don't wear any >inappropriate clothes, I don't swear, I don't spend >nights outdoor ... >I was disciplined since I was a little girl and I am >still spanked regularly. Very red, warm and sore >bottom once or twice a week helped me a lot!

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