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>Hey hon, > >Thank you so much. It's both my pleasure and therapy >for me to share. This is one of the memories I've >shared a few times here and honestly I usually end up >crying when I do. But I also feel it's good to talk >about it. > >I agree with your opinion about the Assistant >Principal. I believe he was not only sadistic, he was >pretty cold hearted about it. He seemed to take pride >in the fact he could even make the big boys bawl like >babies when he paddled them. The fact that he could >see that my bottom was more than half exposed and >still chose to hit my bared butt full force with that >paddle and the way I was struggling when he did it. I >know he had to get some sadistic enjoyment out of it. >Then after he finished and I crumpled to the floor >bawling. He didn't say anything to me or try to help >me up. He just told the Secretary to help me up then >put the paddle away and sit down at his desk. He never >asked if I was ok or anything. He was pretty callous. >Telling me to bring the note he gave me back signed in >the morning and if I didn't he would either paddle me >again or would give me a week of detention then I was >dismissed. When he was confronted the next day he >seemed totally clueless as to why Momma was upset, >then the look on his face when he saw the result of >his handiwork. He went deathly pale but still tried to >shift the blame on me. "Well if she hadn't have >skipped class," and "I gave her the choice of >detention or the licks and SHE chose the licks." He >was right in some respects, I shouldn't have cut class >and maybe I should have chosen to take the detention >and a two week suspension from school activities. But >in spite of the hushed stories I heard about being >paddled by him, which I only partially believed >because of how kids will exaggerate. I decided to take >the paddle. But there is no defending the way he went >overboard paddling a twelve year old girl's half bare >bottom that hard. > >As far as his termination goes, The principal told him >that he can't fire him, but he was not allowed to >paddle anymore. Also he was going to contact the >Superintendent to have him removed from that position >and either fired or placed in a position where he >can't hurt any children. All I knew about his contract >was, the Principal himself was close to retiring and >the Assistant was going to negotiate his contract >which was scheduled to end at the end of that School >year, to become the new Principal. Even though mhy >parents had not threatened a law suit, Momma was >adamant he be removed from that position. The >Superintendent and School Board agreed to remove him >and then when his contract ended at the end of the >School year, they chose to not renew. Another >Assistant was brought in from a different School in >the district. She was nothing like her predecessor. >She was very friendly towards the kids and a full >access type of Administrator. Her door was always >open. Now she did paddle sometimes, but according to >some people I knew who got paddled by her, it was >nothing like as bad as he was. At the end of the next >School, she was promoted to replace the Principal when >he retired. I did run into the former Assistant once >and he tried to strike up a conversation with me. >Referring to me by my maiden name. I told him I'm >married and didn't bother telling him what my name is >now and then told him. "Because I'm a Christian, I >have to forgive you for what you did to me when I was >twelve. But I will never forget it and I have nothing >to say to you." Then walked away. > >Your comment about "it takes a village" is pretty >factual. Growing up, I got spankings from not only my >parents and staff at school, but My Aunt and Uncle. A >couple of baby sitters and my best friend's parents. >But after that incident with the Assistant Principal. >I no longer got spanked at School, Momma contacted the >Board of Education and removed the permission. Then >every year after that when the permission slips went >out to determine if they were allowed to paddle us, >Momma always checked no. > >After I graduated High School, I began to push for our >School Board to ban Corporal Punishment. Then two >years before the birth of my oldest son, The Board >voted three to two to ban it. Which is pretty unusual >here in the South. Earlier this School, we got a new >Superintendent and he began to push to bring Corporal >Punishment back. I along with other parents began >gathering signatures to keep the paddle out of our >Schools. I knew the of the School Board members and >had been talking to them. I along with other parents >went to the School Board meetings when they had open >forums and discussed it. I talked about what happened >to me and how much it messed me up, including having a >panic attack when I heard two girls getting their bare >bottoms paddled in the locker room while I was in the >Coach's Office. After that meeting, I talked to the >three members I knew, all of which said they planned >on voting against it. I ran into one of the new Board >members at Walmart and she and I talked, She said, >"You're Sonya ....... right?" I said yes and then she >introduced herself. She said I did a great job >speaking at the forum and put up a very convincing >argument. Then she said, "You don't remember me do >you?" I said, "Sweetie you look familiar, where do I >know you from?" She said, "Well you talked about it at >the forum. Remember the two girls you talked about >that got their bare butts paddled in the girls locker >room by the Girl's Gym Coach?" I said, "You were one >of the girls, weren't you?" She said, "Yes Ma'am", >Maria ...... Class of 2008". She admitted she deserved >to be paddled because she started the fight, it was >over her boyfriend. But being paddled on the bare butt >was way out of line. Then she asked me what my last >name was and I told her, she said, "Wow you're the one >who won the writing competition in 2006! My little >girl loves that book and checks it out every chance >she can." Then she asked if I had any more copies of >it. I told her I had a couple left. She offered to buy >a copy from me, and I told her I'd just give her one. >She asked me to autograph it and her little girl with >be thrilled with it. I promised her one of the copies >autographed and before we parted ways, she told me, By >the way, I'm voting against bringing the paddle back. >I don't want my little girl to go through what you and >I have had to go through. When the vote came up two >weeks later it was five to zero against bringing >Corporal Punishment back to that School System. > >It's getting a little late, I think I'm calling it a >night. If you have any other questions please feel >free to ask.

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