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Subject: Re: who else developed a very strong attachement to their punisher

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Rob
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Date Posted: 09:32:37 03/25/26 Wed
In reply to: Wizzardofozz 's message, "Re: who else developed a very strong attachement to their punisher" on 06:29:55 03/24/26 Tue

>Hello Rob.
>First I will say to the above that Sonya I am not your
>honey. Even further you behave like AI.It is not
>beyond reason that AI wouldn't be used to troll these
>places to mimic real humans. I read just enough of
>Sonya posts to read no further. If she is a real
>person well, she sure likes the details.
>
>However, I am not about the details. To answer your
>question Rob what made it stick was the ritual and
>ceremony. At that time in my life I had only
>experienced angry outbursts with hitting. Hateful
>words being pushed around. When I was punished outside
>the home it was by a person who displayed calm. Calm
>tones and slow movements. Details meant to bring focus
>and adjust my attention away from that child world of
>fog. That place we live in our heads in that dream
>world. Snap out of it! Ever heard that? I was taught
>to take what I had earned. It was my fault I caused
>it. And that was all true.
>
>So punishment became calm, slow and caring. The
>disappointment was miserable. I remember feeling so
>bad that I had disappointed a real caring authority. I
>immediately was drawn in by the tender caring
>feelings. A simple pleasure to be celebrated. A bond
>built and then shared. It wasn't there to hurt me
>because I was a stupid piece of filth it was there to
>break down the wall that was created by poor
>parenting. The inner belief inside me that I had come
>to accept as true. I did matter. Some people do
>care.She believed in me. And a list of misbehavior's
>will not be tolerated. Punishments were structured
>dependable and consistent.
>
>Most memorable I suppose was that feeling afterwards
>when my head seemed to be clear of the fog and I could
>see. I could notice others and how we interacted. I
>learned to calm and focus. I did not need medication.
>Focused punishment and caring.The ritual of the
>punishment being repeated in the same place the same
>way made me feel safe. It became a trusted expectation.

Hi Wizz,

I understand what you mean because I had a similar experience with a teacher in fifth grade who always showed that she cared even when she had to spank me.
Other teachers would spank us with indifference and anger.

Same with many parents who just spank with anger and shouting, so one is lucky as a kid when they find someone who cares and not indifferent when spanking them.

How old were you at the time and did your parents know that this woman spanked you or was it kept a secret between you?

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Re: who else developed a very strong attachement to their punisher Wizzardofozz 07:33:17 03/29/26 Sun

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> >>Hello Rob. >>First I will say to the above that Sonya I am not your >>honey. Even further you behave like AI.It is not >>beyond reason that AI wouldn't be used to troll these >>places to mimic real humans. I read just enough of >>Sonya posts to read no further. If she is a real >>person well, she sure likes the details. >> >>However, I am not about the details. To answer your >>question Rob what made it stick was the ritual and >>ceremony. At that time in my life I had only >>experienced angry outbursts with hitting. Hateful >>words being pushed around. When I was punished outside >>the home it was by a person who displayed calm. Calm >>tones and slow movements. Details meant to bring focus >>and adjust my attention away from that child world of >>fog. That place we live in our heads in that dream >>world. Snap out of it! Ever heard that? I was taught >>to take what I had earned. It was my fault I caused >>it. And that was all true. >> >>So punishment became calm, slow and caring. The >>disappointment was miserable. I remember feeling so >>bad that I had disappointed a real caring authority. I >>immediately was drawn in by the tender caring >>feelings. A simple pleasure to be celebrated. A bond >>built and then shared. It wasn't there to hurt me >>because I was a stupid piece of filth it was there to >>break down the wall that was created by poor >>parenting. The inner belief inside me that I had come >>to accept as true. I did matter. Some people do >>care.She believed in me. And a list of misbehavior's >>will not be tolerated. Punishments were structured >>dependable and consistent. >> >>Most memorable I suppose was that feeling afterwards >>when my head seemed to be clear of the fog and I could >>see. I could notice others and how we interacted. I >>learned to calm and focus. I did not need medication. >>Focused punishment and caring.The ritual of the >>punishment being repeated in the same place the same >>way made me feel safe. It became a trusted >expectation. > > >Hi Wizz, > >I understand what you mean because I had a similar >experience with a teacher in fifth grade who always >showed that she cared even when she had to spank me. >Other teachers would spank us with indifference and >anger. > >Same with many parents who just spank with anger and >shouting, so one is lucky as a kid when they find >someone who cares and not indifferent when spanking >them. > >How old were you at the time and did your parents know >that this woman spanked you or was it kept a secret >between you?

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