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Subject: A nudity double standard at bathtime - is it common?


Author:
Andrew
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Date Posted: 07:37:32 01/30/25 Thu
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Lily in a neighbour topic raised a question of a nudity double standard and though I am the opposite sex to her, I also experienced a nudity double standard in my childhood on a neglected side.
It didn't make me uncomfortable though, I was more or less relaxed in such situations but there are few cases I remembered vividly.
The first I've already shared in a "Swimming memories" thread. Even though I was more or less comfortable being naked in girls' presence, that experiece brought me very strange feeling of receiving an all over was from a girl just a couple of years older than me.

And another occasion was at a kind of a family reunion party which brought few families together. I don't exactly remember who's house it was at by they had an extra large bath tub which our parents filled with soap bubbles for us the kids. There were 4 boys including me and the only girl with us, who had to hop into the tub altogether. We were all more or less the same age 7-8 year old except of one little boy 4 yo or something. And guess what, the girl was told that she can join us boys in a tub but has to keep her knickers on. While it was a self-evident that we the boys have no need for this. It didn't bother me at all because it was familiar to me from sharing a bath with my cousin but I remember one of us the boys felt very unsure and shy. His mom thuoght nothing of it though and he was told he don't need an underwear because the other boys are naked) I remember he hesitated a bit but joined us and I don't think he was thinking much of his nudity after a couple of minuted, the splashing was delightful and fun.

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JakeP
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Date Posted: 05:23:50 02/02/25 Sun
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My parents had a similar double-standard growing up. I don't think I owned a single pair of swimming trunks until I moved out for college. My parents insisted that I swim naked while my sisters were allowed swimsuits. It didn't bother me, it was just the way it was.

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Jocasta
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Date Posted: 03:33:48 03/18/25 Tue
Author Host/IP: 51.159.98.96

>My parents had a similar double-standard growing up. I
>don't think I owned a single pair of swimming trunks
>until I moved out for college. My parents insisted
>that I swim naked while my sisters were allowed
>swimsuits. It didn't bother me, it was just the way it
>was.

I agree with you. Even more so. Very often when boys are of advanced age and are allowed to sunbathe and swim in shorts or bathing suits, changing and showering before leaving the beach becomes completely naked under a public open shower in front of the whole family and all siblings including sisters and cousins ​​and usually under the guidance and help of the mother.

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Andrew
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Date Posted: 04:07:17 03/24/25 Mon
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>I agree with you. Even more so. Very often when boys
>are of advanced age and are allowed to sunbathe and
>swim in shorts or bathing suits, changing and
>showering before leaving the beach becomes completely
>naked under a public open shower in front of the whole
>family and all siblings including sisters and cousins
>​​and usually under the guidance and help of the
>mother.

That's true. I used to swim and play naked on a beach when I was very young, probably under 7, but as far as I remember most of the prepubescent boys around me changed their swimming trunks openly and very rare anyone have bothered to cover himself with a towel for this.

But Jocasta I guess you are female and vitnessed these situations from the other point of view? What was your thoughts when you saw naked boys around your age being a young girl? Sorry if your name has confused me of your gender.

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Author:
Joe
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Date Posted: 10:59:02 03/24/25 Mon
Author Host/IP: 71.179.1.15

I think the double standard was very common in the past. Certainly in the 80s when I grew up.

Some of this was due to expectations of girls to be modest no doubt. Also I think some of this, as Jocasta alluded to when mentioning even older boys needing the guidance and help of their mother, was due to boys just generally being less mature both mentally and physically. Girls tended to take care of themselves.

An example of this was my sisters at the beach always changing themselves under a towel while even as an older boy I was helped to undress by my mother (or older sister) and this was done in public after which I usually remained naked for an extended period of time. My sisters would similarly shower themselves at the beach with their swimming costumes on, or somewhere in private, while I was washed naked at the beach by an older female in full view of the public. I even remember on an occassion when I actually wore swimming trunks at the beach, my younger sister being asked to retrieve my trunks from around my ankles after they'd been pulled down before I went under the shower. I recall feeling very embarrassed as she stopped in front of me "sweetly" taunting "come on Joe, feet out" as I struggled to step out of them without tripping, and otherwise stark naked, with my mother standing behind holding my waist.

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Jocasta
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Date Posted: 14:22:02 03/31/25 Mon
Author Host/IP: 51.158.237.230

Indeed, boys do develop slowly than girls their age and are later in seeking privacy. But even when they have become sexually aware and feel ashamed and embarrassed, most mothers ignore these feelings of theirs. This is because they are used to seeing them naked all the time they growing up and during the care of their health and hygiene. Often this care was done in front of other female relatives or sisters of the boys, so exposing them in public in front of other random females is not considered a big deal.
Andrew's question reminds me of an incident at the beach with my sister's family, when my nephew who was just entering puberty at the time, was made to change into dry underwear. Since there were no changing rooms, this had to be done on the sand in front of us and a few other beachgoers. To give him some privacy, my sister spread a towel between us and him, and although it covered him from the waist down, he was completely exposed to her, only an arm's length away. When he took off his bathing suit, my sister seemed to notice the sand stuck to his privates, because she carefully wiped his ass, penis, and testicles with the towel she was covering him with, then spread it out in front of him again while he put on his dry underwear. This action of hers evidently embarrassed him greatly, because a blush covered his cheeks all the way to his ears.
At the same time, his younger sister changed into her panties completely hidden by the beach dress she had worn earlier, while watching her mother and brother's actions with a playful smile.

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Author:
Tor
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Date Posted: 10:09:05 05/17/25 Sat
Author Host/IP: 192.145.117.107

>My parents had a similar double-standard growing up. I
>don't think I owned a single pair of swimming trunks
>until I moved out for college. My parents insisted
>that I swim naked while my sisters were allowed
>swimsuits. It didn't bother me, it was just the way it
>was.

I grew up close friends with a boys and girl nearby. I was friends with girl first but her brother was always naked at home, when 8 and we were about 10 and 11. His friend also did same.

I asked about it and mom told me she grew up same way with her brothers so thought it was good for boys and I should do the same. They always took us to beach to if we behaved and had time.

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Author:
steve52
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Date Posted: 13:01:08 04/01/25 Tue
Author Host/IP: 73.119.58.191

I had an aunt who bathed her sons a couple of times a week up until early puberty usually two at a time in the tub to save water. I stayed with them the summer I was 16. I was a late bloomer, so I got bathed with a cousin. We would be standing in the tub soaped all over and older girl cousins would walk in and think nothing of it. It was the norm in that house. Girls got privacy. This was in the early 70’s.





Lily in a neighbour topic raised a question of a
>nudity double standard and though I am the opposite
>sex to her, I also experienced a nudity double
>standard in my childhood on a neglected side.
>It didn't make me uncomfortable though, I was more or
>less relaxed in such situations but there are few
>cases I remembered vividly.
>The first I've already shared in a "Swimming memories"
>thread. Even though I was more or less comfortable
>being naked in girls' presence, that experiece brought
>me very strange feeling of receiving an all over was
>from a girl just a couple of years older than me.
>
>And another occasion was at a kind of a family reunion
>party which brought few families together. I don't
>exactly remember who's house it was at by they had an
>extra large bath tub which our parents filled with
>soap bubbles for us the kids. There were 4 boys
>including me and the only girl with us, who had to hop
>into the tub altogether. We were all more or less the
>same age 7-8 year old except of one little boy 4 yo or
>something. And guess what, the girl was told that she
>can join us boys in a tub but has to keep her knickers
>on. While it was a self-evident that we the boys have
>no need for this. It didn't bother me at all because
>it was familiar to me from sharing a bath with my
>cousin but I remember one of us the boys felt very
>unsure and shy. His mom thuoght nothing of it though
>and he was told he don't need an underwear because the
>other boys are naked) I remember he hesitated a bit
>but joined us and I don't think he was thinking much
>of his nudity after a couple of minuted, the splashing
>was delightful and fun.

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Author:
Sean
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Date Posted: 03:31:17 05/28/25 Wed
Author Host/IP: 192.145.117.237

I grew up in Midwest and then a foster kid after 9 in Florida. Harsh to say but my new mom was more doting, cooked more, but also signed me up for every free sport year round.

I had a best friend from sports and her friend had two daughters that we all played together. I would take clothes off after sports often with other boy at home. Boys and girls took baths together and swam nude in pool but admittedly boys were naked outside of bath often.

We did not go to beach more than once every two weeks but I like other did not even own a swim suit. Girls always wore swim suit at beach.

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Author:
Tor
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Date Posted: 19:59:59 05/28/25 Wed
Author Host/IP: 192.145.117.236

I was pretty sheltered and only mom, sisters, friends moms, sisters saw me naked growing up until I played sports.

Even so I was raised naked till 10-12 at home and backyard. It was a double standard for me and another boy.

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