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Date Posted: 00:14:32 03/29/02 Fri
Author: anonymous
Subject: THIS IS GOOD ADVICE...PLEASE READ
In reply to: melissa joynt 's message, "confused" on 06:52:27 03/18/02 Mon

Just so you understand, you will find yourself attracted to many people over the course of your life. If you are involved in a relationship, it does not mean that you cannot find another person attractive or interesting. But it takes maturity to make the decision to NOT act on your impulses.

This man is involved in a marriage, not just a relationship. He has made the decision to join his life to another person. If he did not want to be with this other person, he would not have proposed, and they would not be planning a wedding.

He may find you attractive, but he has not brought it up, and he is still getting married. Are you reading into his signals looking for signs that aren't there? It may seem like an ego boost to think that this man, who has someone already, might be interested in you. But an attraction is not enough to break up a stable, loving, intimate relationship that is ultimately leading to marriage.

To be with you is a decision he needs to come to terms with on his own.If he chooses not to marry this woman, there will be other reasons to do so, not just because of you. This is a huge life change, and you cannot take it lightly.

Yes, forbidden fruit is oh so much more tempting that what is readily available. But this is real life, not a movie with plot twists and a predicatable ending. This is a situation where many people will get hurt if you choose not to do the right, mature thing, and just be a friend and support this man.

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