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Date Posted: 22:12:46 03/31/02 Sun
Author: Andrea
Subject: Re: READY TO MOVE FORWARD
In reply to: leann 's message, "READY TO MOVE FORWARD" on 06:48:17 03/28/02 Thu

Trust me, I know how fantasies of a "white wedding" can end up feeling like you'll be bartering your firstborn to pay for it all. Let me first say though that I think the fantasy wedding should start with a fantasy groom - the man you want to spend the rest of your life with. Everything else is candy-coating on an already wonderful thing. Remember that would you? Forgetting this could easily be a sign you want the wedding more than you want the husband. If you're STILL sure, there are TONS of books in the clearly thriving wedding industry that give you ideas of how to have a wonderful wedding on the cheap. Check them out! Be prepared though for the reality that, in all likelihood, you won't be sashaying down the aisle in Vera Wang with your stretch limo parked outside the cathedral. It probably ain't happening. Deal with it.
Why not focus instead on ways to make it a meaningful experience for the two of you than worrying what "Bride" and Harlequin novels are outlining as "the" experience. My older brother spent a fortune on his wedding - y'know what in the end, it said about the couple? That they spent a lot of money, and little else, so Modern Bride-fuelled was it. Having the cake done by a relative, a classic car driven by a family friend....the day means more in the long-run. Choose the things that are important to you and be prepared to pay for them - for all else, find ways to save. The books give more ideas on how to do this. (CHECK THEM OUT! lol)
Bottom line is this: don't sacrifice your happiness for a fantasy of "having perfection." All of that stuff only lasts a day. The marriage is the part that's supposed to stay with you, remember? Enjoy that.

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