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Date Posted: 09:44:39 02/05/02 Tue
Author: FawnDoo
Subject: Now this is the difficult decision to make
In reply to: Goktimus Prime 's message, "Update..." on 06:27:27 02/05/02 Tue

Masayo's words would seem to indicate that she still has feelings for you. You obviously still have them for her, or you would not be in pain to the degree you are. The decision lies before you, Goktimus, whether to continue the relationship and try to salvage it, or leave it and write it off once and for all. How to make that decision......is not easy at all.

The first thing to consider is the trust. Trust is, as you know all too well, the cornerstone of any relationship from which all else comes. Look at a pic of Masayo, or imagine her face in your mind and ask yourself, honestly, if you could come to trust her absolutely again. To be honest, trite as it sounds, your answer to this question will give you a pretty clear indication of what you should do.

The second thing to consider is how you feel. Masayo has hurt you, and right now you feel bad. However, she only managed to make you feel so bad because while in your relationship she must have been able to make you feel good. Another question to ask yourself now and in a month's time is, based on how good she made you feel, are you willing to risk being made to feel this bad again?

If you do decide to get back with Masayo then for your own mental health and happiness it can be with no reservations on your part - otherwise unresolved feelings/issues will eventually erode what exists between you and turn it sour.

On the one hand, you both did wrong. She abused your trust in one way, and you abused hers in another. Which one is the more or less serious, I cannot say. However, it happened. On the other hand, both of you have (as I mentioned) obvious feelings for one another that still exist.

This is all a bit meandering and I do apologize. My best advice is to write down how you feel, think on it, mull it over and then do the same again a week or so before Masayo returns (ie, far enough away from now to give you a little perspective, and far enough away from her return to stop nerves from getting too much in the way) and compare the two. Ultimately it comes down to you, but like others have said we're all here for you either way.

Hope things get sorted for you one way or the other, Goktimus......stay sharp.

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  • In a way, I'm glad it's not my decision -- Perceptor II, 19:28:04 02/05/02 Tue
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