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Date Posted: 06:27:27 02/05/02 Tue
Author: Goktimus Prime
Subject: Update...
In reply to: Goktimus Prime 's message, "Goktimus in a world of pain" on 20:50:42 02/04/02 Mon

Masayo just called me and we had a rather extensive and heated conversation.

Major points:

* She admitted that she did sleep with this guy once.

* She said that it happened a loooong time ago, when our relationship was still fairly young. She said that she didn't have complete faith in our relationship at the time and ended up getting drunk and having a one night stand with him. Afterwards when she soon realised how genuine my love was for her, she regretted what she had done and told him about me -- he then got upset. I actually do remember this part, because the ONE time I ever met this guy was when he rushed over to her place while we were there one night and he was quite upset.

* She admits that it was a stupid thing to do and says that she has never been intimate with him other than that one time. However, there is some contradicting evidence because the E-mail correspondence that I read points out that they were intimate several times, and as recently as January 28. She says that it's just wishful thinking from him, and that he's just exagerrating their friendship based on what he believes to be romantic feelings from her based on their one nighter.

* She also said that my hacking into her Email account (and thus gross invasion of privacy) is equally as evil as her infidelity. Although I admitted that my privacy invasion was wrong and did apologise for that, I disagreed that they are both equal levels of evil. She argues that if the shoe had been on the other foot, she would view my infidelity as being equally bad as her hacking -- of course, this is only hypothetical. In either case, we both admitted to having hurt each other and ended up apologising to each other for our respective roles (am I being a pushover?).

* She is going back to Japan to visit her family for one month. She told me that during this month, I should think about whether or not I want to forgive her and continue our relationship, or whether or not we should end it permanently.

At the moment, I'm rather undecided. We're both probably too emotional right now to make a rational decision -- so I will have a think and give her my reply when she gets back.

Anyway, I have come to sought the advice of my peers -- although none of us have met in real life (save SofaMan), I have come to consider most of you as my friends. Otherwise I would not be trusting you with such a personal issue.

And for those of you who don't know me as well, I believe there is also some value in receiving advice from strangers... less personal bias I suppose.

In any case, that's where I stand at the moment. Our relationship is currently in hiatus pending my final decision to either forgive her infidelity or cast her away.

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