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Date Posted: 19:28:04 02/05/02 Tue
Author: Perceptor II
Subject: In a way, I'm glad it's not my decision
In reply to: Goktimus Prime 's message, "Update..." on 06:27:27 02/05/02 Tue

Another quotation that seems to apply here (it's not from the Bible, but it's still very wise, IMHO):

The only time during a romance that your eyes should be closed is when you kiss.

This decision has got to be made with your head. Your heart should not be out of the equation, as what you feel is certainly vital data to consider, but you also have to consider other factors, most of all her actual trustworthiness. There is a danger of making the decision based on what you want to believe about her rather than who she truly is, which is why you should approach this decision with sober judgment.

* She admits that it was a stupid thing to do and says that she has never been intimate with him other than that one time. However, there is some contradicting evidence because the E-mail correspondence that I read points out that they were intimate several times, and as recently as January 28. She says that it's just wishful thinking from him, and that he's just exagerrating their friendship based on what he believes to be romantic feelings from her based on their one nighter.

I think this is a key point. It's possible that she's lying to you. Then again, she could be telling the truth. I think that whether or not you can honestly believe her (again, using sober judgment and not just what you want to believe) will be a key point in your final decision. Since I have none of the key details, I'm wholly inadequate to make that decision for you, nor do I think that would be wise anyway.

In any case, if I were you I wouldn't be doing her schoolwork for her any more. Like I said before, ultimately that hurts her rather than helps her.

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