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Date Posted: 01:38:20 05/07/02 Tue
Author: seth
Author Host/IP: 205.188.199.182
Subject: Re: One of the main reasons...I get so sad!
In reply to: Rhonda K 's message, "One of the main reasons...I get so sad!" on 01:35:05 04/03/02 Wed

hi rhonda. i am new to this message board so it is nice to meet you. it sounds like you have gone through and are still going through a very difficult time. i am very sorry to hear about your loss. i understand what its like to lose someone very close to you. are you currently seeing a counselor or therapist? i don't know the exact details regarding your experience with depression and anxiety but what i do know is that regardless of their source or sources, you can be free of them. the depression and anxiety that is. i know its hard to realize that when you are feeling this way but it is absolutely possible! there was a time not too long ago that i felt like i would be depressed and miserable for the rest of my life. i came to accept this as a fact. i put so much emphasis on the depression that it became my identity and way of life. it was like i was trying to support it and keep it alive at all costs. i was a defender of my depression and one with it. but then i gradually began to realize that i DON'T want to play this game anymore and that i don't have to . through therapy, medication and self help i trancended this experience. i educated myself about the disorder from all points of view;psychological, medical, social, and all other aspects of the disorder. what i came to realize is that everything works together. your individual psychology which when it comes to depression and anxiety really isn't that much different than the next person's, affects your body and your body in turn affects you mind. at the same time all of this influences how you relate to others which in turn influences your mind and body. and a vicious cycle is created and maintained. on and on it goes until you can learn how to stand back and observe the whole process. you have to learn how to detach yourself from the symptoms which manifest with depression and anxiety. this isn't an easy thing to do but like i said before it can be done through discipline and practice. when you can do this you are now ina position to work on your individual psychology and how you process events in your life. you can witness your reactions, feelings, thoughts, and behaviors without judging them or labeling them as good or bad. you just accept them as your internal proccesses atwork. once you have detached yourself from your thoughts and feelings you will notice how they come and go. you will also notice that you are the one who thinks these thoughts and feels your emotions. in other words the real you or the observer is not your feelings, thoughts, behaviors, or reactions. the real you is not the depression or anxiety or any other problem or situation that you may encounter in your life. so if you lose your job or get dumped in a relationship for instance this is not a accurate representation of who you are. you are not your job and you are not the relationship. you self worth or self esteem is independent of these things. but when you believe that you are your job, you relationship, your income or whatever it may be you set yourself up for depression and anxiety. you lose your authenticity and your true worth. these are all beliefs which have been learned and have become automatic. they can be changed and let go of. cognitive therapy is very good for identifying your core belifs and then changing them. it works well for both depression and anxiety give it a try if you haven't already. exercise, nutrition, and spirituality are also very important in freeing yourself from depression and anxiety. there is a lot of helpful informatio out there. don't give up or get down on yourself rhonda. it will all work out.

seth

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