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Date Posted: 21:43:09 01/20/02 Sun
Author: Sandy
Author Host/IP: 216.104.140.59
Subject: Hey Jean
In reply to: Jean 's message, "Sandy" on 00:16:42 01/19/02 Sat

For the moment things are going fine. I'm hoping they'll stay that way for a while.

Before Christmas, my job got to be HELL!! and I thought seriously about changing to something else. I managed to stick it out and now that Christmas is over, it's ok again. Next year when Christmas comes, hopefully I'll be able to remember that the craziness doesn't last forever when I start getting all stressed out. Mostly it was all the people, all the commotion, interuptions, etc. With ADD, I tend to get overwhelmed with too much stimulation. One day it was particulary horrible. I couldn't get anything done..there were people everywhere, I felt like they were just crowding in on me and I was so stressed that I came home in tears. Scott had gotten home early and he saw how upset I was. I told him it was just all the people coming at me from every direction, each wanting something. Anyway, he went to me to the next store and drove, which helped a lot. Just having someone understand means a lot.

I haven't had any more fights with the ex lately. We talked the other night and I'm hoping we can work something out without this constant court stuff. He said to write something down and he'd look at it. He seemed sincere on the phone. Call me naive, but I'm really hopeful. Even after all that I've gone through and all the lies I've been told over the years, I'm still willing to give him the benefit of the doubt this time and see if he's willing to work with me. Like I told him, I don't have a problem with Matt going to see him any time Matt wants. What I have a problem with is the ex trying to force him when he doesn't want to go and I'm always caught in the middle with Matthew telling me he doesn't want to go and expecting me to do something about it and the ex on the other side thinking I should make Matt go anyway. That puts me in a no win situation...either way I'm going to have to hear someone's mouth griping at me. I want them to work it out. Obviously Matthew isn't going to not ever want to go. It's just that sometimes he may want to rearrange things to do something else. He's almost 14 so I think that's to be expected. As I told Dennis, in a couple years he's going to be wanting to date, etc and won't want to spend much time with either of us.

Anyway, I'm hoping we can work something out and just be flexible for Matthew's sake and let him have these last couple years of being a kid as peaceful as possible. And I'm all for some peace myself. I just want everyone to get along. I've had all the griping and fussing I can stand.

What's making things bad for you?

Love,
Sandy

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