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Date Posted: 23:08:26 01/06/02 Sun
Author: Bill
Author Host/IP: 152.163.201.196
Subject: P.S. Abandonment Issues in relation to p.o.m.
In reply to: Bill 's message, "Peace of Mind?" on 22:27:29 01/06/02 Sun

I was told the other day that abandonment is just as bad as physical abuse, but in different respects, and that recovery from abandonment is long and painful.
I agree with this, in reflection, when my parents divorced and my mother couldn't mentally handle taking care of us kids and she ended up moving away out of town to see us on occasion, then my brother couldn't handle it and after many troubled years, he deserted the family and dissapeared, then my sister became distant, and then my dad's PTSD from the Korean war got the best of him just at the time when he married a stepmother who relentlessly criticized me, dad couldn't handle being in the middle and couldn't help me, so he turned his back, but I don't mean that in a mean sense, he had to do it to save his own wavering sanity,
I look at this and think my god, is it no wonder that I have trouble with social acceptance, that to this day my sensitive heart still hurts at the way friendships drift in and out of lives and why I allow losing touch to be a form of mental torture, I'm not asking for pity, I'm just looking back at where all of these negative thinking and behavior patterns started.
Now if I can just move forward and let go of the past.
Peace,
Bill

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  • Re: Peace of Mind? -- Francie, 09:49:49 01/07/02 Mon
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