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Date Posted: 22:32:24 04/03/02 Wed
Author: Brother Adam
Subject: Re: When will God hear me?
In reply to: Lori 's message, "When will God hear me?" on 18:42:14 01/11/02 Fri

>Hi,
>Where is God? I am feeling that He cannot hear me. I
>am so sad right now. Like many other full figured
>sisters out there, I want to be loved. Yes, I know
>that God loves me, but a lot of the times I want
>someone in the physical form who will love me for me
>whether I am big or small.
Oh, My dear lady. I am a man and hope that I may be allowed to speak here.. but I read your posting and felt I had to say something, because I was you... minus the breasts and certain other equipment, but still... I chased for that elusive woman to fall in love with and wondered how God could bless me in so many ways and yet ignore my need for a mate. I wondered if God really existed or heard me... then He showed his awesome power to me, in several steps... He sent a woman into my life who became my best friend. She was totally sexy, but also totally into God... to the point that I got hooked back into church, and found God again.... plus, her own faith in God kept us from having sex, a first for me to be in a close relationship with a woman but not have sex... I mean, I could call her right now and borrow her car tomorrow, or borrow money from her... that's how close she is to me and vice versa... but we never went to bed... God had to teach me to be a friend to someone... to be able to love someone without making love..
> I cry sometimes because I
>feel fustrated as to why almost all of my life that I
>have been obese and that life has been so hard for me.
>I have had men to treat me like the crap.
Don't let them treat you like crap... I mean, I have always weighed too much... 125 at age 9, 200 at age twelve, 425 at 15, finally at 38 getting down to 265 again... aiming for 225 by the time I get married... and I can tell you all about how tough diets are... went from 425 to 200 in 19 months just to get into the navy... got kicked out and went back up to 300 before my next birthday....
>I know that
>I am beautiful in my own way. I have a pretty face and
>importantly a pretty heart.I realize that I am not
>going to be a size 6, but trying to lose weight to be
>more healthier is a problem. I pray and pray, but it
>seems that God won't hear my prayer. Sometimes, I
>think God is punishing me. For what though? I
>contemplate as to what I did so wrong that God wont
>answer my prayer for being a bit smaller and sending
>me my soul mate.
try simply asking him to guide your life... Don't keep trying to do what you think He wants you to do, but ask him for guidance. Remember the Lord's Prayer and the Prayer of Jabez? Both start by telling God how good and great he is... Praising him... if you go to a baptist church, praise and worship comes first, then prayer, then sermon, thenm requests.... try the same in your prayers....
>I am tired of going through man after man and then
>feeling empty. I have feelings too and why should I
>have to open my legs for such? Sometimes I ask God why
>does the slimmer sisters, especially the ones who
>strip have the perfect bodies and can have any man she
>wants and a good girl like myself have to settle for
>less? I have realized that sometime ago that sex is
>not the answer. I got tired of feeling empty
>afterwards. I rather lay with someone who loves me,
>has a ring on my finger and will not leave me in the
>morning.
>
OK, we both suffer from so many of the same problems... we both believe all the hype that others have told us... that we are ugly because we don't look like the advertizing bodies... I am learning that God made me... I may have abused the food and candy, but God knew I would before He made me. When I finally accepted His son Jesus Christ as my Lord and Saviour, and asked for forgiveness of my sins, God started teaching me that I am ok... If others don't like my looks, tooo bad! God loves me as He made me.
>So now I just wait and wait wondering when I will have
>that man in my life. What more does God wants me to do
>in order to be loved like I know I deserved to be
>loved.
>
Surrender to His will. Let His Holy Spirit get to work in your soul... Pray daily, not just for yourself, but for the world around you... and sincerly ask God to send the right man to you... no matter what he looks like. I never thought I would be with a big woman.... and she never thought she would be with a big man... but God put us together... and we finally know love. I never knew BBW before, and most of my ex's could have been fashion models... She probly wouldn't get help from a fashion desk if her car was on fire in their lobby. I look similar to the michelin man... but I wanted a caring, loving woman who was intelligent and fun to be with... and I got all those qualities in her... She wanted a Christian man who would treat her like a queen, and she got that in me.... Both of us gave up on chasing, and put our futures in God's hands... only to meet in a chatroom, and see sparks flying, etc... Don't like the Long Distance side of things, but... in August she will move here... so it will be ok.
Anyhow, let God decide your path and your mate... don't hinder him with preconcieved notions of how your mate should look....
>I really like this site and it has given me a chance
>to vent and cry as to what ever is on my mind. I am
>grateful for this site and to know that I am not the
>only one going through this.

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