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Subject: We are stressing Author: Susan [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: Saturday, May 24, 2025, 02:10: pm So my sister is coming over tomorrow to give me and our two children a large clean out enema tomorrow and we are all very crabby. I am really stressing. My enema two weeks ago was awful. She gave my daughter her enema on my bed and put her on the toilet and then her and husband went and got our 12 year old son on the toilet with his enema in him and then she came and gave me my enema and my daughter was still on my toilet so we had to share getting on and off the toilet for each other. The three of us are drinking a glass of orange juice with metamucil each morning and the three of us usually can have a BM in the evening without our suppository or mini enema. But sister is very bossy about she is going to clean each of us out every other Sunday. It is very toddler provoking for me. It feels like potty training all over again. Don't like it. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: We are stressing Author: Maude [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: Saturday, May 24, 2025, 02:47: pm Susan we are here for you. Come and vent and get some stress release and talk about how things are going. We don't judge you for admitting you are a closest withholder. Your sister has put her foot down because you opened the door with your daughter's diagnosis of encopresis. She is getting the three of you on a healthy path of colon health because she cares. My oldest granddaughter has five children that get a clean out enema every other Saturday. They have two toilets in the house and she compacts it so she is only doing the enemas for about two hours. No specific order. Her 17 year old daughter may be on a toilet getting the last of her enema back out and mom has 7 year old son sitting on the enema pillow also, sitting there looking at each other. There is no expectation of privacy on enema Saturday. They may see any one of the other four on the toilet or bent over mom's leg. Two of them don't mind their enemas. The middle boy likes his enemas. The youngest still resists and complains about his enemas. She still has a JBL sit on enema pillow but she only uses it for the two youngest. She puts them on it and then with a bandage wrap she wraps their arms together so they can not lift themselves up off of the enema pillow. She then can walk away and tend to another enema while that child sits for about twenty minutes getting the enema in slowly and working it's way up in them. 7 year old boy and 9 year old girl. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: We are stressing Author: AV [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: Saturday, May 24, 2025, 05:27: pm Susan, Here is an idea that may work for the bathroom issue. Get a hospital handicap potty chair for the third person. Rotate it around so a different person uses it. Can be placed in their bedroom given them some privacy. After what your son said in an earlier post about not getting another enema, what are his thoughts now receiving one with the dad and sister combo? Maude is right, no one judges here. Please allows feel free to come and express and release your emotions and feelings. It does help. Good news to hear you and the two are able to have a BM in the evening with assistance. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: We are stressing (typo corrections) Author: AV [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: Saturday, May 24, 2025, 05:32: pm Sorry about the typos. Susan, Correction: Please always feel free. . . Correction: able to have a BM without any assistance. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: We are stressing Author: Diane [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: Sunday, May 25, 2025, 03:51: pm Maude that is a fascinating way to give a child an enema. I'm picturing in my mind them sitting on the bag with the the nozzle stuck up in their bottom and their feet are dangling from the highchair and their hands are wrapped so they can't lift themselves up. Sitting their with just their thoughts and their enema going up inside them. I would love to get to see it in practice. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: We are stressing Author: AV [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: Monday, May 26, 2025, 06:47: am Susan, Hope the enema sessions went better this weekend. Honestly, no need to get in a hurry when limited to bathroom usage until you are able to get a third portal chair. Let the kids go first, and you go last after they are finished. Work a plan out. Don’t make it any more stressful than you already are. Remember though, in person, you must try to stay strong for the kids. Like already mentioned, please feel free to come here and express your emotions and release your fears out to have a non judgmental location to journal. So you can gather yourself for the kids and be their strong point in their time of need. Let them know you all are in this together and can do it for better health. We are supporting you and your family. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: We are stressing Author: Susan [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: Monday, May 26, 2025, 01:50: pm Yesterday was awful. They both fought dad and my sister and were very upset about their enemas. That upset me when it was my turn. It just isn't going well. I'm still getting backed up before the metamucil kicks in and gets bowel movements from me. So I'm basically full in my colon when she cleans me out. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: We are stressing Author: AV [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: Tuesday, May 27, 2025, 07:06: pm Susan, You plan to increase the dosage to help a little? What is the plan to help make all this work out for your family? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: We are stressing Author: Maude [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: Thursday, May 29, 2025, 04:07: pm Hey Susan it is typical for children to resist their enemas when you start them at the later adolescent age like you have. It is best to start regular clean out enemas around three to five. But you can do this just stay the course. They will come to realize this is here to stay and they will adjust to it. So you say you are getting backed up right away after a clean out. When do you pass your first stool after your Sunday enema? You have been a holder all your life so your colon is badly stretched out. Are you getting a lot of stool with your enema and Sunday? You aren't going to want to here this but you need an enema at least once a week probably for many months to come. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: We are stressing - SUSAN Author: AV [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: Wednesday, June 04, 2025, 05:33: am Susan, I have been thinking about your family a lot lately. You made a great decision to help your children and even yourself. It’s a journey. We all know you are going through emotions. Please, come as often, daily, weekly, and pour out. You need a place to release your feelings for healing sake. Behind closed doors, pour out, to be that strong person your children need in their time. You don’t need to be hurting as they are hurting. You need to be holding and loving and letting them know all of you are in it together. You can pour out your emotions, feelings, fears, here to release them from your body so you can be strong for them. I spent time here pouring out writing for days to just empty those emotions in my head that were even hidden that came out in my writings. I was flooded with so much that to just be able to put it all out to perhaps even help someone else felt great. Hope to hear from you soon and you will be willing to simply come and release to help you heal. Take care. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: We are stressing Author: Shelly [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: Thursday, June 05, 2025, 07:14: pm Susan we are all thinking of you and need to hear that you are doing okay with your journey on bowel health for all three of you. Please let me know if you are doing okay. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> Subject: Re: We are stressing Author: Sue (UK) [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: Saturday, June 07, 2025, 12:34: pm It's typical for children (correct definition: prepubescents) to resist being given enema at any age, butt it's even more typical of able-bodied teenagers when they're not just having their dirt-passage violated and controlled but having their delusions of bodily autonomy shat-tered painfully. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: We are stressing Author: Shelly [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: Saturday, June 07, 2025, 12:58: pm In the eyes of the law they are still considered children until the magic age of 18. In need of mommy's care. Most teenagers these days fail miserably in tending to their colon health. 90 percent of teenagers today would benefit greatly from a weekly clean out. Agreed on by the majority of Pediatric Doctors. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]