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Subject: Re: biological father confusion

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Date Posted: 20:33:43 06/03/02 Mon
In reply to: Hayden 's message, "biological father confusion" on 08:35:58 05/31/02 Fri

You are having to learn some very difficult life lessons earlier than most. Try to realize they are just that. Life experiences that we all must go through at some time.
Yours came earlier and seem to hurt much deeperr. You don't have to give up loving your birth father just because he is a jerk and doesn't want to have anything to do with you. You can love him anyhow. Remember, love should not be measured by what benefit you get from having the other person accept you and your love. It is a pure emotion. Your birth father evidently has more in his life no than he can manage and he thinks he cannot handle one more thing.
It is not about YOU and his not wanting you, it is all about what is going on with him. I am sure you are very worthy of his love and even if he doesn't give you the attention you crave, you still have a place in his heart.
He probably waste more energy trying not to get involved cause he doesn't think he can handle it than if he just jumped in and tried.............but heah. At some point in our lives, we all realize the person we need most and want to love us most, won't. It is rarely about us being worthy or lovable but about the other person being unable to give us what we need. Spend more time with your mom and step-dad and try to focus on the blessing you have.
Good luck and God bless.

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