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Date Posted: 22:44:11 02/18/03 Tue
Author: Drummond
Subject: No wonder my wife wouldn't go for it
In reply to: tumbleweed 's message, "Re: A reminder for the gentler sex" on 19:10:28 02/17/03 Mon

And I tried to explain to her that the third item down in the left column says it's her duty to invite a friend and arrange some girl-on-girl entertainment to break up my boredom!

And of all the nerve, a woman named "Mel" goes and writes a response!

The good husband�s guide:
� Get your ass home and make dinner- or pick up dinner on the way. Plan ahead, even the night before, to deal with dinner as you are an equal member of the household and your wife is not your servant. This is a way of letting her know that you have been thinking about her and are concerned about her needs. Most women are hungry at the end of a busy day and the prospect of a good meal (especially her favorite dish) is part of the warm appreciation needed.

� Prepare yourself. On the drive home, put your day into perspective and recognize that your wife has probably had just as rough a day as you have- and she doesn�t get to leave her job at 5 o�clock. She has spent the day with the spawn of your loins and you should be grateful for the headaches she puts up with.

� Be a little supportive and be interested in what she�s done that day. It might not be exciting to hear who the famous person was on Sesame Street or what Oprah talked about on her show- but it matters to her. She doesn�t get to talk to grown ups all day and have adult conversations. Her boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.

� Clear away the clutter. Get your butt in the door and help pick up and take some of the load off of your wife�s shoulders. Throw in a load of laundry and pick up toys. This isn�t the Hilton and the maid doesn�t come in every morning.

� Spend a few minutes with your children so your wife can take her first break of her long day. You are their parent just as much as she is and they count on you to be there for them.

� Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for her to unwind by. Your wife will feel she has reached a haven of rest and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to her comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction and you just might get a little lovin� after the kids go to bed.

� Ask the kids how their day went and find out what kind of projects they�ve been doing at school. Help them with their homework. They need your attention and love.

� Be happy to see her.

� Greet her with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please her.

� Listen to her. You may have a dozen important things to tell her, but the moment of your arrival is not the time. Let her talk first - remember her topics of conversation are just as important as yours.

� Make the evening hers. Never complain if she has had a rough day and the house isn�t spotless or the laundry isn�t done. Do not leave her home while you go out and have fun. She needs to get out of the house too and be a part of the larger world. Try to understand her world of strain and pressure and her very real need to get out of the house and have some fun.

� Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquility where your wife feels valued and appreciated.

� Don�t greet her with complaints and problems.

� If you have a late meeting, call her and tell her where you are and when you�ll be home. Make a point of doing something nice for her like picking up flowers or giving her a nice foot massage. She didn�t get a lunch or dinner break away from her place of work.

� Make her comfortable, Have her lean back in a comfortable chair or have her lie down in the bedroom. Get her a cool or warm drink and tell her to unwind.

� Arrange her pillow and offer to take off her shoes. Speak in low, soothing and pleasant voice.

� Don�t ask her questions about her actions or question her judgment or integrity. Remember, she is the master of the house and as such will always exercise her will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question her.

� A good husband always knows his place.

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