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Subject: someone please help

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kali (lost!!!)

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Date Posted: 11/27/07 12:16am
In reply to: Samantha 's message, "someone please help" on 10/29/07 11:59am

hey im 16 n live w/ my bf whos also 16 .. i just found out im 3 weeks preg... n we told his family n there pushing abortion on us :<:< .. we both r strongly disargee ..our baby souldnt die because of our mistakes .. noone understands :< .. i feel so alone .. im lost :<:<, my bf works at tim hortons full time .. n im trying to get a job right now..i donno wut to do :<:< i say if we dont have susport from others this will be impossibe.. but if ppl r behide us on this .. then i know we can do it . can u plezz help me :<:

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[> [> Subject: Re: someone please help

Author:
Pat
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Date Posted: 11/27/07 2:54pm

Hi, Kali!

You have come to the right place. We will support your decision to protect this baby. You probably will have some financial issues. It sounds like you already do. Please go to your local crisis pregnancy agency. They can help. Here are some lists of these agencies, where you can find one in your area:

www.pregnancycenters.org

You both have the right idea. We DO understand, and you are absolutely right: your baby should not die because of your mistakes. You are already head and shoulders above some people in maturity in spite of your young age.

We will be here for you any time. Please keep us updated.

Tell his family you have made your decision to have this baby. Keep telling them that. Don't discuss it. Just repeat your decision. If they start to hound you, leave the room or hang up the phone. If you leave the room and they follow you, just tell them that you won't discuss it because your mind is made up, you are going to leave the room again, and they are not to follow you. If they persist, leave the premises. Eventually they'll accept that you have made your decision. In time, they will almost certainly love their grandchild.

If it will help, tell them that I have a two year old grandchild who was born to our son who is not married. I adore him! And he is very well behaved as well as very bright (he is learning two languages), and both his parents are taking excellent care of him.

Hugs,
Pat

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Hello Kali!!!

Author:
Tracey
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Date Posted: 12/ 9/08 3:07am

Kali~
Hello Kali and welcome!!! I know you are scared and confused right now, but the fact that you are taking a stand for your child(even when you're family's pushing you in the other direction) is admirable! :) You are young, but that doesn't mean your feelings aren't valid! And I commend your BF for standing by your side--he sounds like a keeper! ;) You are going need some resources, since you aren't sure how you are going to support your little one. So, first things first...we can help you in locating a pregnancy center in your area that will help you in many different ways. We just need to know your state and closest city. Crisis Pregnancy Centers are wonderful in providing women in unplanned pregnancies with things like, pre-natal care, financial help, items for the baby, etc. They also have wonderful counselors that want to offer you support and guidance in any way you need it. So, just let us know if you need help in locating a local center. In the meantime, we are here to offer you support, help, and guidance. You have found a safe place that wants to help in every way we can! I hope to hear from you and hope you continue to come back! I am praying for you Kali!
God bless,
Tracey