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Subject: Re: Can't decide?

Author:
Stephanie

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Date Posted: 12/20/07 10:46pm
In reply to: Stephanie 's message, "Can't decide?" on 12/19/07 12:34pm

Well, I still feel very anxious and scared. At times I don't think that I even like this man anymore. That terrifies me to think that I might have another baby and no additional support physical and emotional. I am very greatful for the comments that I did receive on this board and so fast. I really don't know what I will do tomorrow. I felt that yesterday I would go through with the appt. but today I don't feel that is right. I would be so broke, tired, maxed out, and now I am not sure I want to be with this man?!! Is that my hormones? seriously I can't filter the rationale anymore about my feelings toward him. I also feel like if I don't want to be with him why suffer and have his baby. What am I going to do? I know I will hate Christmas after Fri if I go to my appt. You know, he hasn't even asked me how I am feeling about tommorow. I told him last night that I am having second thoughts and he said of course you are...I really need a little more moral support. I hope I am not just making up excuses to get rid of him? Why can't I decide?

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Author:
Heather
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Date Posted: 12/21/07 12:05pm

Hi Stephanie,

I don't know if this post will still be applicable to you, but I would say if you're not sure you want to go through with the abortion, don't think you have to. Appointments are canceled all the time.

You can always change your mind and make another appointment but you can't ever bring back a human life taken through abortion.

I'm really sorry for the difficulty you're having right now. All of your feelings are completely understandable.

Take good care of yourself.

Heather

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Author: Pat [ Edit \| View ]	Date Posted: 12/21/07 12:29pm I have only a minute, and it's fairly late in the day, so I'll write more later, but I just wanted to remind you this is your baby, too, and that is what will be foremost on your mind no matter what you do. Hugs, Pat

[> [> Subject: Re: Can't decide?

Author:
Stephanie
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Date Posted: 12/21/07 2:32pm

Well, I can't tell you all how much I really like reading your supportive words. I went to my appt this morning semi-paralyzed. I couldn't get out of the car for 15 minutes. I finally made my self go in and fill out the papers, got my finger pricked and even made it to a room. Once the nurse lady came in to speak to me it was over from there. I could't stop crying and felt so terrible that she pretty much sent me home. I went to the waiting room to get my b/f and he was nowhere to be found. He left me there.So, I started to walk home. He told me later that he needed to get his oil changed and that it was for me that he did that so we could get home...I live only two miles from the building. I was so sad. I needed him and he wasn't there. He couldn't believe that I was walking around so good. I told him that was b/c I didn't do it. I am so sad today I never thought in a million years that he would have left me there let alone feel so sad. Not sure what to do now about anything. I feel more alone now than I did before today.I don't know how I am going to parent 4 children alone?

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Author:
Sharon
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Date Posted: 12/21/07 6:22pm

Stephanie,

My heart hurts hearing the sadness you're feeling right now. I pray that it will be replaced by peace and joy, especially in this Christmas season. It's ironic (poetic, actually) when you think about it - that 2000 years ago a woman found herself with an unplanned pregnancy (at least unplanned by her! ;-) I truly believe that every child is here for a reason, I believe. God doesn't make mistakes...

I will be praying for you whenever you come to mind. Hang in there. It will get better. Rest in the peace that God knows what He's doing - He will provide a path for you. It might not be easy at first, but I promise you that you will be rewarded MANY times over for choosing to give your child life...

Sharon