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Subject: Re: Please help me and my kids Author: Shellie [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 03/30/10 1:04pm In reply to: Terrah 's message, "Please help me and my kids" on 03/27/10 6:34am Hi Terrah, Wow, this guy has put you through a lot! I couldn't agree with Tracey more, removing this guy from your life will do wonders for you! I know that is easier said than done, but it is doable! What he is doing to you is not love. If he hadn't been doing this yo-yo relationship thing with you, you would have been able to move on and possibly find a healthy relationship with someone else. And trust me, there are plenty of guys out there who are capable of loving you AND your children, including the one growing in your womb right now. Because you said you know abortion is wrong, I'm going to be frank with you. Let's say that someone was plotting to kill one of your born children, but were struggling with it...then talking himself into it by acknowledging that God would forgive them. But Terrah, the end result would still be a child killed. You wouldn't want this for your born children, and you don't want it for your unborn child. By what you've said in your post, it's clear that you'd carry a lot of guilt if you aborted. This isn't something you can just shrug off. I hope with all my heart that you will choose to dig deep inside yourself (and pray for more strength) for the courage to keep your children and rid yourself of this man who is destroying your chance for happiness. How can you find Mr. Right if you're investing your time in Mr. Wrong? Your ex needs to be supporting his children financially. The weight of the world should not rest solely on your shoulders. Have you looked into going after him for child support? I'd love to talk with you more. Please post as often as you want. We're here to listen! Take care, Shellie [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Please help me and my kids Author: Sharon [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 03/31/10 9:09am Terrah, You need to make a break from this man. And, please, please, please don't let your little one pay with its life for his being a jerk. You are stronger than you think. You can see right through the lies he's told you. You know you're worthy of love and you know that HE has to claim FULL responsibility for HIS cheating. I know you say you're "weak", but I think you'd surprise yourself if you committed yourself to washing your hands of him. There are a lot of resources available for women and children. You need to be sure to get on the W.I.C. program. That provides you with free vouchers for milk, eggs, cheese, iron-fortified cereal, fruit juice, peanut butter, and beans! It's a wonderful program and has a very high income ceiling (meaning you can make quite a bit of money and STILL be eligible for it ;-) In fact, it covers you through your entire pregnancy and for one year after the baby is born, if you decide to nurse. If you don't nurse, it covers your baby until he or she is 5-years-old. It would cover all of your other children up to age 5, too! To get on the program, contact your County Health Nurse at your County Courthouse. It sounds like you are a spiritual person. I'd strongly recommend praying and asking for strength and wisdom. You need strength to withstand the temptation to take your husband back. He is not a good influence on you or on your children. And, he says he'll shape up, but he doesn't. You've given him MANY chances. He's emotionally abusive. You deserve to be free of that. God can show you a path to freedom from that abuse. And, pray for strength to be the strong mother you obviously are, to protect your little one and not sacrifice him or her as the "easy" way out. It would haunt you forever if you did. I don't say that to everyone, but from what you've posted, I feel very strongly that you would live with tremendous regret and remorse. You have four children depending upon you. You need to take care of YOU and be free of this man's detrimental effect on your life. I will say a prayer for you for strength and peace and God's guidance. I know He will show you the way. Sharon [ Post a Reply to This Message ]