Date Posted:12:10:24 07/12/05 Tue Author:Christi Subject: Re: Who gets the ashes In reply to:
Les Ridley
's message, "Who gets the ashes" on 20:22:12 06/26/05 Sun
>My husband and I Lost our son Stephen David (during
>Delivery) on July 20 2003.
>We chose to have him Cremated, and have kept his ahes
>at home. In addition we have a Bundle the hospital
>made with his hair, quilt, outfit ect.
>My husband has just asked for a divorce. - So Now
>what happens, Who gets the Ashes? Who gets the
>bundle? I don't want to fight over my dead Son, but
>...
>Any suggestions would be greatly apperciated.
>Please keep me in your prayers
>Les
Les,
I would suggest that you divide the ashes and put in separate urns/containers so that you both can keep his remains near you. I am so sorry for your loss; I too just lost my son and we had him cremated as well. His father and I are divorced and he kept some of the ashes to scatter at places that were special to he and my son. The rest he sent to me to keep or scatter in a place that had special meaning to me. As difficult as it is to divide the ashes, I believe that you will both find comfort in doing so.