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Date Posted: 14:38:44 12/20/01 Thu
Author: Dah Lion
Author Host/IP: qam1b-sif-86.monroeaccess.net / 12.27.214.87
Subject: Re: A real-life soap opera!
In reply to: Rose, with a problem 's message, "A real-life soap opera!" on 00:37:18 12/20/01 Thu

1. Lieutenants are NOT drill instructors. Sergeants do that job in the Army and Marines.

2. No one is "allowed" to remain a Lieutenant for 18 years by choice. After being passed over for promotion a second time, military officers resign to prevent being discharged for incompetence. The military is not some social program operated for the pleasure of its members.

3. Retirement pay for a Army Lieutenant is not $3,500.00/month. They don't make that much on active duty.

4. Retirement is NEVER with "full pay and benefits" even after 20 years. To draw the maximum reirement pay and benefits, a full 30 years of service are required.

5. This sounds like a very poorly told adult fairy tale. It would seem that your friend could do a lot better in choice of real world friends and on line "beaus." There is no doubt that this story is entertaining, but it really is a read-it-one-time-and-discard-it plot.

It is possible to meet real people with real value on line. I know. I have met many such people here.

It is also very possible to meet those who lie consistently about everything important in life. Anyone can claim to be in the military, a paraplegic, a professor or an attorney who stopped being one to sell antiques. Anyone can claim to be married or to have never been married. They can even claim a divorce that is not registered in any state in the United States. They can claim to live alone or with children, roommates or jealous children. Anyone can claim to have adopted the child of a friend to cover up a youthful indiscretion. In short, anyone can claim anything online and in "chats."

Good people want to believe that others are also good people. They really don't want to believe that others can be so evil as to play mind games with others. But, such evil beings abound in the real world. It is just simpler to get away with their fantastic tales online... at least for a while. Sooner or later, the moment arrives when a lie will no loonger work. That's when Internet legends begin. There are near fatal (or even "fatal") automobile and/or motorcycle accidents, ex-spouses develop cancers, tumors or life threatening health problems which result in a need ot "sacrifice" by the liar or even the "death" of that spouse, brother, sister, girl or boyfriend. Imagine the shock of having a supposedly deceased ex-spouse answer the telephone when you call. I know several people who have had that experience. Other times the sick Internet lizard attacks the victim, going on a campaign of character assassination against the person who trusted him or her. "He stalked me," or "She demanded that I only talk with her," or "He cheated her out of a lot of money," are the accusations usually leveled. I have learned to immediately cast a jaundiced eye on such accusations.

I don't propose to say that I understand the motivation of such cruel and viciously hurtful people. I don't. I don't want to understand them. At first they bring anger and hurt, and - yes - inappropriate feelings of shame to their victims. That stinks, but it seems to give them a perverted pleasure. What they don't realize is that they eventually bring a great pity for them from the truly good people they attempt to victimize... those who can live real lives in the real world.

As for "B" feeling any shame, it is misplaced. All that she has done is prove that she is one of the "good" people while "M" and possibly "W" (if he really exists) are among the sickos who play mean-spirited games with the feelings and emotions of others online for whatever sick and perverted reasons such people do such things. "A" may not even exist and I would wait 9 months before believing tales of pregnancies conceived in an intensive care unit when one of the parties is in and out of a coma.

If you figure out why they do it, please let us all know. I know I have a reason to want to know and understand for myself. Perhaps they start out telling one lie and discover that it takes many more to cover up the first. They just can't stop and say, "I didn't tell you the truth. I'm sorry. This is the truth..." then tell the whole, unadorned truth. Sadly, in most cases they would probably discover that the truth was not nearly as terrible as the world of lies they built.

But then, what the Hell do I know? (Oh, yeah. I DO know, don't I? Yup, yup, yup. I surely do.)

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Re: A real-life soap opera! -- Rose, 12:14:15 12/21/01 Fri