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Date Posted: Fri August 15, 2003 12:09:58
Author: hello
Subject: Re: 朋友論
In reply to: 商人 's message, "朋友論" on Sun August 03, 2003 12:24:16

「不要以為發生在你們的朋友身上的短處是何其之討厭,因為他/她的短處正是你的短處呢!要討厭別人先要問清楚自己有否犯同樣的錯!」其實,不單是在朋友身上,在一般人身上,我都會以別人的短處引為鑒戒和自我反省的。
至於朋友嘛!我想了很久什麼才算是朋友。最後,我從我會稱為朋友的人去思想我的定義。
有的朋友會是曾經在某段時間和我時常一起,雖然現在很少見面,但有時仍會搵下對方,想知佢近況,見面時亦能坦然相交的,我想這是我對朋友的基本定義。
但有些朋友的關係郤是深一層的(但隨著人的長大,各有各忙,這樣的朋友已漸漸流失了),他/她和我會保持聯絡,我們可以無所不談,即或我做了些很錯或很傻的事,明知他們是不會認同我所作的,我也能坦然和他們說的,也相信他們不會因此而輕看我,確實他們也沒有輕看我,反而會支持我擺脫這些愚昧的事情。他們能忍耐我唔好的性格,有的更會勇敢地說出我的短處(這不是每個朋友都敢做的事情),並非是踩我,而是希望我有所改善。有時我o地會有些事彼此不能認同,我們雖然會堅持自己,但郤不會因此而影響大家的友好關係。朋友有困難,能幫的也會儘力幫助,當然若果我覺得是對他/她沒好處的事,我會不加援手。一句講哂,朋友是要交心的,會為他們的好處想的。
不過,我總覺得人始終都是很自我的,會愛自己多於別人的,要做到愛人如己其實不容易,即使他/她是我很好的朋友。但很奇怪,我曾經對一位朋友有這樣的情況,在我自己都唔掂o既時候,我竟然會擔心他過於擔心自己,連身邊其他的朋友都對我說:「妳理掂自己先啦!我擔心妳有事就真…….」但我時常仍會擔心他,特別當我情緒差時,我會很焦慮不安,自然就會擔心他,不知何解。不過,我會靠主學習克服這憂慮和不安的思想和感覺的。
講完這段話,我會少上來了,因為我很響往早段日子(即五、六月),我能放下心裡的掛慮,清心回到神面前的時光,就在那時,神使我從sars期間的情緒極度不安中明顯地好轉過來,但這個月又好像差了些,我和祂的關係和情緒都一樣,所以我盼望能放下各樣瑣碎事,清心跟隨祂。

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