Re: Bachelor/Bachelorette Parties -- It's Debateable

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Subject: Re: Bachelor/Bachelorette Parties

Author:
Bruja

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Date Posted: 07:18:17 07/10/02 Wed
In reply to: Michelle 's message, "Bachelor/Bachelorette Parties" on 11:30:04 07/03/02 Wed

>What is the purpose? What do they signify? Is going
>to a strip club appropriate or necessary? How about
>having strippers at home? Prostitutes? Is it your
>last night of "freedom?"

I think the purpose is to stage a symbolic "last night as single person" event. That's fine, so long as the emphasis is on "these are my closest friends -- we've had such a great time!" and not on the *sexual* connotations of being "single" (i.e., able to fool around). As everyone has noted, being a day away from marriage is NOT being "single".

With that in mind, prostitutes are CLEARLY out. I think that strippers for *men* are out, too. A private stripper is WAY too sexual -- there *will* be a hidden undertone of "is she available for sex?"

Going to a strip club is totally stupid. When I worked at strip clubs, we DREADED the bachelor parties, because it inevitably meant a bunch of young guys who getting drunk and feeling pressured to act "manly" around their buddies, which translated into being total assholes. There were guys grabbing us, wearing "tittie" hats . . . NOT pretty. And there *is* a sexual undertone, too -- it's not just a "woo-hoo! let's party" event, it's a "get one last taste of what you're going to give up" event. I was not-infrequently approached with a request to be "one last fling" for the groom, by him or one of his pals.

Male strippers for women are stupid but not sexual, really, so I don't have as much of a problem with that.

We didn't have bachelor/bachelorette parties, personally. And I cannot overstate my absence of regret about that.

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Re: Bachelor/Bachelorette Parties	Maria	10:49:13 07/11/02 Thu