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Subject: Re: New user would like some advice

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Heather

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Date Posted: 10:33:02 02/09/06 Thu
In reply to: Tammy R 's message, "New user would like some advice" on 10:14:49 02/09/06 Thu

I didn't even finish reading the whole thing. I got up to "What if she is really trying this time?" I have been going through this forever it seems and I have watched many people try and fail because it's either not what they want or they are not doing it the right way because they don't have to. What I am trying to say is this, if she is really trying this time, the proof will be there and it will SHOW in everything she does. My cousin finally got tired of using so he came to his mom and told her he needed help. I called my friend at church who is the Director of the Men's home and he took him in that same day. That was in November. My cousin made a decision and stuck to it. He got out of the home and found out his meth using girlfriend was 5 months preg. HE took her out of state to start a new life with her. Two days after he got there, he strted a nwe construction job and is going to take care of his baby. See when they are ready, they are ready. I have seen may people get clean and stay clean. Your daughter is to hung up on this guy and the drugs instead of this baby she gave birth to. You and your hubby need to protect her. If you choose to give her back when she has done her proving to the courts, then that will be great for her and her baby, but until then, God has placed this baby with you to take care of and you must do what you must do. It's really hard to say how long she will be like this. My son is 4 1/2 now and his dad started when I was pregnant with him and still to this day can't get himself straight. He looks great right now, but like you mentioned, they can stay straight for 2 months and then they are back at it. What is it about the 2 months? He has done this several times also like your daughter. I have just decided after talking with HULA via posting that I need to step back and keep me and my kids away from him. You need to do the same. I will pray for your daughter. If she is still with this man, I don't believe she isn't using. Her attitude and actions would change almost immediately. SHe will struggle with staying clean at first but if it's what she really wants, she can do it. It's a choice. It's a hard choice, but it's also not your fault. I used when I was young and I made a choice to quit once the law got involved. Has she came to terms that she is an addict yet? That she must do in order to start understanding her own actions.
I will continue to read your post but I just wanted to put all this down.
Heather

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Subject	Author	Date
Re: New user would like some advice	Tammy R	13:25:20 02/09/06 Thu

Re: New user would like some advice	Lori	14:07:10 02/12/06 Sun