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Date Posted: 18:08:35 02/15/06 Wed
In reply to:
Tammy R
's message, "New user would like some advice" on 10:14:49 02/09/06 Thu
Tammy-I'm new to this board as well. I am not new however to the evils of meth and how it will destroy a family. You are in a tough situation your first concern needs to be for your granddaughter. She is an innocent victim in all this and you need to make sure she is safe and taken care of. But you also need to be there at least in a supportive way for your daughter. She needs all the support she can get.
Until your daughter has gone through treatment and can prove she isn't using, be prepared, this could be years. Statistically meth is one of the worst drug addictions to overcome. You have to be on guard from now on. It is sad and it sucks but it is the truth. I am saying this from experience. My sister is an addict. She has been clean for 1 1/2 years. She lost total custody of her daughters and hasn't seen them for 3 years. It is an ugly situation and I feel for her because now she is trying. But while she was messed up with meth her kids were neglected and sexually abused and are still suffering from her drug problem. Both of her daughters have RAD and severe behaviorial problems. One of her daughters has been in treatment facilities for behaviorial issues, group homes and foster homes, now she is in another facility. She is 8 years old and this has been going on for over 2 years for this sweet child.
Even though my sister has been clean for 1 year and 1/2 we still can't possibly trust that she is being clean. She had a 3rd baby with a meth addict and has custody of that baby but the father is still in the picture. It is all troubling and the chances of her relapsing are very likely.
In your case your daughter hasn't been clean for very long. If she has done it on her own, I wouldn't accept that at it's face value. If she still is associating with her boyfriend, I'd say the chances are that she is clean aren't very good. My sister fooled us pretty good. I had NO idea she was using. But she was and involved with sick people because of the drug. Sick people that took advantage of her and molested her sweet innocent girls.
Knowing what you know...you have to do everything to protect your grandchild. You can't take a risk with something so precious. For your daughter, encourage her to get help. There are resources out there. Show her pictures of meth addicts. She could be 18 going on 40 from the use of what meth can do to her body and her looks. You could get temporary custody, you could also have your daughter sign a form giving you rights to make medical decisions, school decisions, etc. You can make it yourself, have it notarized. I think it is called a parent to parent authorization form. You can give her an ultimatum, what needs to be done...drug treatment, job,time frame, etc for her to get her child back. if she is serious about her child she will do it. If not you know she is in real need of help because she is not making good choices.
Remember all the bad things she does is the drug and not her.
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