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Subject: Re: He hurt my feelings

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Hulalea

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Date Posted: 12:27:04 03/21/07 Wed
In reply to: Heather 's message, "Re: He hurt my feelings" on 16:26:13 03/20/07 Tue

Heather,
Please don't be so hard on yourself. If you want to talk about someone that has gone through this and kept trying that would be me. I divorced my husband because of the drug insanity then after treatment and him moving back here, I remarried him and now we have been separated since January 6th. He came back into the home to sleep on the couch but did not participate in the family because his "needs were not being met" and he wasn't feeling appreciated, etc. so he got a night job and also works days so he would come home at 4AM then leave at 7AM. That is not a husband or father. In counseling with one of our Pastors, we were doing a 40 day prayer with our kids and the Pastor & his wife but after the 5th day it was evident that he was not going to quit his night job as suggested so I made a decision that he is not attempting to work this out with us but wants his cake and eat it too so I asked him to just stay away. I think he's been sleeping somewhere else - he claims at his shop after work because he is too tired to drive home right away but I found that I had to pry it out of him without him being open and honest and explaining or disclosing it to me up front.
After living at his shop for over a month, there is not a lot of disclosure or accountability to me so I refuse to deal with that. As his wife, I should know everything - at least if he has God as his lead. But I see that this is not the case. I think he used his God card to get his family back then when he cycles with his self-centered what about me time, he puts the God card back into his pocket. I don't suspect he was using but who knows.
Anyway, I have not heard from him in 2 weeks after I told him to stay wherever he's sleeping and not come back. He has called my daughter because he misses her and has asked her to have my son call but my son refuses to speak to him or deal with him. I am blessed because financially, God blessed us and we are able to keep everything alright without using a dime of his. So now he has 2 jobs and no one to have to take care of and can really have his cake and eat it too without us. Heather, I know how God will disclose things to us to guide and protect us and it is such a blessing. Stay strong but don't beat yourself up over it - you're not the only one that has hopes dashed over and over again. This is a fallen world and we are not home with Jesus, yet. Stay in prayer.
God Be with you,
Hulalea

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Subject	Author	Date
Re: He hurt my feelings	Shari	21:16:53 03/21/07 Wed

Re: He hurt my feelings	Shelly	19:55:11 03/22/07 Thu
Re: He hurt my feelings -- Heather, 21:25:28 03/22/07 Thu Re: He hurt my feelings -- Shelly, 18:15:06 03/23/07 Fri